When will my group ever accept me?

[Raven Wintervale]

One question though, is there a reason why you are keeping your gaming secret?

A fair question. I guess it's that most of my friends wouldn't understand it, somemight even cut ties with me. Some of these people I've been friends with for a very long time. I can understand if they're mad if they think i'm ashamed of them or something (which I'm not). But I don't think it's that, often they're comments about the way I dress or things I like to do.

 

[Raven Wintervale]

That was on my mind, but I opted to be a little more subtle.

Guys can be so childish sometimes! Although I sure you'd have like sitting in on a few of our Vampire LARPs

 

[smootrk]

Guys can be so childish sometimes! Although I sure you'd have like sitting in on a few of our Vampire LARPs

That was also on my mind!

 

[Jonas Grumby]

That was on my mind, but I opted to be a little more subtle.

So you decided to pass on the "strip down to bra & panties for a tickle fight" reference?

 

[Raven Wintervale]

It sounds to me like your group has issues. (I take "nerdabee" to be "nerd wannabe".)

I think you'll mainly have to grin and bear it, or if it becomes un-fun to play any more, look for a new group. (Though this one sounds pretty unique!)

I have to say that this sort of cliquishness is just as reprehensible from the side of the more traditional "social outcasts" as it is from the debutantes. (Hooray for geek pride and all, but Jesus, they should get a grip.) If you just deal with it and keep playing, I have to hope they'll realise that you really do like playing, and back off. (Especially as it seems your DM has got things straight.)

In the end, it's all about having fun, of course. So--don't stress about it, and just do your thing.

Maybe Anax is right. Maybe this is my karma for all the people I used to make fun of back in high school, before I found out my boyfriend was a gamer. So maybe I should put up with it.

 

[Lady_Acoma]

You know it sounds like an interesting group and all and your DM sounds good but I still don't see the problem with finding another group possibly through like RPGA events or seeing if anyone around here is in your area. I would think that maybe your reason for not finding another group is that you are afraid your other friends will find out, if that is such a big deal to you, don't worry so much, I doubt they hang out on some of the same levels as gamers do in general. I also think that possibly you aren't giving your other friend's enough credit. They may open their minds when they find that one of their best friends enjoys the game and re-evaluate it. But I don't know them so I may be very wrong. Either way enjoy your gaming and you will always get more from it.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I've been in your shoes and it can be tough. I worked harder then everyone else and really helped shape the game in ways the benefited everyone.

*points and laughs* Crothian wears girl shoes!


If I were in your situation, I wouldn't be so closeted about it. You don't need to be like loud and super-gamer about it... just don't deny it. When someone asks you what your hobbies are, feel comfortable saying "games". Don't need to go get a d20 tattoo or anything, just be comfortable with it.

Crothian's point about knowing the rules is an important one. I think nearly every gamer (but girl gamers in particular) have to deal with. There's always some mocking and questioning, but if you can roll your Turn Undead check without flipping to page 159 of the PHB - you'll be helping your friends pull their collective feet our of their collective mouths.

 

[Rel]

Crothian's point about knowing the rules is an important one. I think nearly every gamer (but girl gamers in particular) have to deal with. There's always some mocking and questioning, but if you can roll your Turn Undead check without flipping to page 159 of the PHB - you'll be helping your friends pull their collective feet our of their collective mouths.

Queen D know of what she speaks. She's got a better grasp of the rules than several of my male players and she's a hell of a lot cuter.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

Queen D know of what she speaks. She's got a better grasp of the rules than several of my male players and she's a hell of a lot cuter.

*grin* I'm smart AND cute! It's a good combination - that's how I got to be the most popular girl on the internet.

 

[Lady_Acoma]

*grin* I'm smart AND cute! It's a good combination - that's how I got to be the most popular girl on the internet.

Not at all big headed either...