Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[Storm Raven]

Start putting yourself in a position where (a) you can meet women, and (b) you aren't just trolling for a companion. Many people think that cruising the bars is a great way to meet women. It is a way, but it's probably not the best.

Try, for example, getting involved with a local community theatre group. You don't have to act (though you can if you want to), getting involved on the technical side works out just as well. Many women like theatre, and the ratio of women to men is really favorable for a guy (not to mention the fact that, in my experience, a rather large percentage of men who are involved in such groups are gay).

Get involved with a church in your area. And when I say get involved, I don't mean go on Sunday (though I would suggest it). I mean participate in church activities, volunteer to help out and so on. If you wouldn't mind meeting a woman who is a single parent, volunteer to help with youth activities. And so on.

The most improtant thing is to get involved in activities where you are interacting with women, but not in a position where it looks like you are desperate to hook up. Show that you are a good guy to have around, the rest will come.

 

[Remathilis]

Damn, I'm only 25 and beating myself up...

I found my problem though, I think the link below sums it up (flash comic for all you at work)

http://www.hoodyhoo.com/dt01.htm

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

The most improtant thing is to get involved in activities where you are interacting with women, but not in a position where it looks like you are desperate to hook up. Show that you are a good guy to have around, the rest will come.

This really, really is the most important thing, Fru. Find activities that you find enjoyable and fulfilling - and, at the same time, scope out the woman scene. You'd be amazed how much easier it can be to find someone when you're engaged in activities you truly enjoy... and that they enjoy.

If you like books, join a book club. If you like cooking, take a cooking class. There are so many options that are both individually fulfilling, and could potentially allow you to cross paths with that special someone.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Well, quite frankly, I'm not interested in a physical relationship.

There are people who think that having a physical relationship is the only one out there.... but it's not. There's more to a relationship than seeing how many times you can have sex in a week. Most of us women want more than just sex, sex and more sex. We want someone we can talk to and treat as an equal. An equal partnership: the hardest thing, it seems, that you can find out there because most are wanting not much more than to see how many times they can bang you in the bed.... :\

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Originally Posted by Mystery Man
A woman's needs can be boiled down to three basic things:

Things that smell good
Small bright shiny objects
Shoes

Remember this and you're golden.

I would add things that are soft to this list. Like teddy bears, and bunnies, and kittens...

Don't forget money as well!

We all love money! Especially when it's not ours!

 

[Torm]

Sorry for the semi-off-topic responses earlier - hadn't read the whole thread yet.

Fru, apologies if any of this repeats what others have said, but it seems to me like you need three things:

1. A better perspective on meeting women. Talk to women. "Hit" on them. Brood in a corner and wait for them to try to break your ice. Have style. Be a complete dork. It doesn't matter. In the end, your headstone may read "Devoted Husband", but almost no one ever had theirs read "Was really bad with women." Be brave - most of them are CR 1, you can handle it.

2. A woman-rich environment. Some have suggested theatre or church. Fine if you like those. Join social clubs that interest you. Get yourself places where women are (IRL, not on the 'net) and places where you feel like you have some reason to be ASIDE from women - make sure, for instance, that you enjoy the clubs. Meetup.com might be a good place to start.

3. A better perspective on yourself. You are awesome - not better than everyone else, but better than most. Despite what some have said, don't worry so much about your physical appearance, aside from hygiene, any health issues you can take care of, and not dressing in ways that you KNOW are uncomplimentary to you in the eyes of women. Women do like the Brad Pitt types, but some women like skinny guys, some like big ole teddy bears, and mostly, in my experience, if they like YOU they will FIND things to like about your looks. You're an intelligent and well educated man, from what I've seen on the boards. Be "The Dude." You are, after all, blessed by Torm.

Good luck. Have confidence. Really, dude, I am one of the biggest geeks you would ever meet, and I've been VERY successful. You can do it.

 

[Desdichado]

And, as long as none of them are you in that pair of panties!

OK, now you've really ratcheted up the uncomfortableness of the image... me in a pair of panties posing as one of the two women you're with...

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Which further supports my notion that women instictively (not consciously) expect a good man to be able to be in a relationship with more than one woman at once. But we probably don't want to go there.

Torm ain't part of the "House of the Triad" fer nothin'!! They didn't say what kind of "triad" it was there....

Wow, over the course of half a page, we've wandered from the uncomfortable image of me in a pair of panties to Torm making it with two gals at once. As long as none of them are Anna Nicole...

Fru, I really apologize!

What? You missed that alternative lifestyle thread a month or so ago? Torm revealed all in that one!

And, as long as none of them are you in that pair of panties!

Or you either, for that matter!!

I take full credit... er... blame for my own comments, but I have NOTHING to do with Joshua's feminine undergarments.

Let's hope for all the deities sake that you don't!!!

Boy.... let Torm into a thread like this and it tries to go downhill.... FAST! :\ I see he's back his old "snarkiness" as before....

But I'll take him posting over that ron burgundy twit any day!!!

 

[Henry]

A woman's needs can be boiled down to three basic things:
Things that smell good

...like the paper of a freshly-printed RPG book...

Small bright shiny objects

...Like Dwarven Stones Dice...

Shoes

...of striding and Springing, or Spider Climbing.



What?

 

[Darth K'Trava]

OK, now you've really ratcheted up the uncomfortableness of the image... me in a pair of panties posing as one of the two women you're with...

Well... he is a deity after all.... he could be with as many women as he wants to be!

Fru: you could be like Torm: hit on various women who share the same interests as you on boards like this one....