Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[Hijinks]

Most of us women want more than just sex, sex and more sex.

This is true, but don't negate the sex completely. If you are in a relationship with a woman, and you don't make any moves whatsoever, and no sex ensues, she will begin to feel unwanted, undesirable, and that you don't have any interest at all; you may be wanting to go slowly or make sure it's right, but the woman doesn't know that. Trust me, I've gone through this exact scenario in my life From the woman's perspective, it hurts very much to not be wanted sexually.

 

[the Lorax]

"He who delights in solitude is either a wild beast or a god."

Sir Francis Bacon

I've always been quite content with solitude.
Being too pleasent to be a wild beast...

 

[Thornir Alekeg]

Don't forget money as well!

We all love money! Especially when it's not ours!

You ladies have all forgotten another thing - good food.

If you think you would like it, I would echo the idea of a cooking class. The class itself may not introduce you to the woman of your dreams, but being able to cook is often a major plus when you do meet women. I do 90% of the cooking in my house. Many of my wife's friends are very jealous.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

<snip> some like big ole teddy bears, and mostly, in my experience, if they like YOU they will FIND things to like about your looks.

The Teddy Bear thing - totally true. I definately prefer my men a wee on the chubby side. They're soft, snuggly, make good pillows, and always make me feel very safe when all wrapped up with them.

 

[Torm]

Fru: you could be like Torm: hit on various women who share the same interests as you on boards like this one....

Other than you, Fate pretty much REQUIRED me to "hit on" the only woman I've ever "hit on" on the 'net - she and I started talking through a message list for a band I'm a big fan of, and, simultaneously, she started talking to Mystra through a fantasy art forum. I'd LOVE to know the odds against THAT happening.

But that was it. You were a special case. Especially since after that, I pretty much swore I'd never talk to women online that way again. But I'm glad I did. Even though nothing came of it that way, you're still really cool.

I've known a couple of people who have had relationships that started on the 'net that worked out, but considered how many people I know who have tried, it still is a very poor success rate.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

You ladies have all forgotten another thing - good food.
I do 90% of the cooking in my house. Many of my wife's friends are very jealous.

Again - so true. A man that can good a good meal is totally hot.

 

[PowerWordDumb]

OK, now you've really ratcheted up the uncomfortableness of the image... me in a pair of panties posing as one of the two women you're with...

It seems to me as an impartial observer - and I'm not making any specific accusations here - that you've taken far too quickly to the ideas in this emergent subthread, my friend.

 

[reveal]

Again - so true. A man that can good a good meal is totally hot.

My wife told me I should buy her this shirt because it's true.

 

[Darth K'Trava]

You ladies have all forgotten another thing - good food.

If you think you would like it, I would echo the idea of a cooking class. The class itself may not introduce you to the woman of your dreams, but being able to cook is often a major plus when you do meet women. I do 90% of the cooking in my house. Many of my wife's friends are very jealous.

Yup. We like not having to cook all the time and the man's excuse for dinner is always takeout. I had a boss who I told his wife that he should be in the doghouse for bringing home chicken from work for dinner when she asked for him to bring something....

My new friend cooks. I was surprised when I went to his house the day I took him to the Enterprise finale and he'd cooked dinner. Granted he was down to his last 2 bucks.... But still, I was surprised and pleased to have home cooked food as opposed to fast food, which had been the alternative.... It's too bad he lives 2 hours away from me....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Other than you, Fate pretty much REQUIRED me to "hit on" the only woman I've ever "hit on" on the 'net - she and I started talking through a message list for a band I'm a big fan of, and, simultaneously, she started talking to Mystra through a fantasy art forum. I'd LOVE to know the odds against THAT happening.

I dunno if Mr. Spock could even compute those odds....

But that was it. You were a special case. Especially since after that, I pretty much swore I'd never talk to women online that way again. But I'm glad I did. Even though nothing came of it that way, you're still really cool.

Thanks.

I think it took guts to come out in the first email and say what kind of relationship you were asking for, not knowing how I'd react to it....

And I think you're really cool too....

I've known a couple of people who have had relationships that started on the 'net that worked out, but considered how many people I know who have tried, it still is a very poor success rate.

I have a friend who had a bad experience with trying online dating.... But then I think he came over, like in RL, being pushy, needy and desperate.... :\ Personally, I've not tried it.... I talk with this new friend of mine via IM that I'd met at Stellarcon back in March. And then started talking via IM when all I was really wanting to do was see how far he'd gotten on some artwork I'd paid him to do... and been talking to him on a regular basis since then. Even took him to the Enterprise finale party, up here to see Episode III, and then gave him a ride to ConCarolinas in Charlotte since all his local "buddies" couldn't take him...