Lady_Acoma
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Dude you are distracting from the thread topic, please stop.
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Why must a loving soul be so alone...
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Mystery Man
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Tewligan said:
Yes, I had to LoL.
I had quite a dry spell myself before I finally met my wife, we'll be married 10 years in August. I would go to places (other than the comic store) that interest you. Striking up a conversation with someone who has a shared interest is a good way to break the ice. Meeting someone on the internet is replacing bars for the one night stand, almost impossible to find someone with whom you actually have something in common.
frankthedm
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Being too nice is a problem, so is paying too much attention.
Total Indifference for an evening can work wonders.
It all breaks down to a cause pain, usually emotional [current society only condone what you can get them to self infict] couter with some positive attention , repeat pain, counter with attention. More or less good old stockholm syndrome.
Total Indifference for an evening can work wonders.
It all breaks down to a cause pain, usually emotional [current society only condone what you can get them to self infict] couter with some positive attention , repeat pain, counter with attention. More or less good old stockholm syndrome.
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Queen_Dopplepopolis
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Being on the prowl for a significant other is always a little difficult. It's true: women can just feel a needy man... and it terrifies us. It really takes some work to be able to "fly casual" in this respect.
I wish I had some better advice to offer, but I don't. I don't really have much experience in the dating field. I met my husband when I was young, fell in love, and now we're married.
But - you've got my ear... I never mind being someone's venting outlet.
I wish I had some better advice to offer, but I don't. I don't really have much experience in the dating field. I met my husband when I was young, fell in love, and now we're married.
But - you've got my ear... I never mind being someone's venting outlet.
Yo Frukathka
I understand your problem, it is something we live with everyday and it isn't a pleasant weight on our shoulders. But, I agree with what has been already been said; It helps when you aren't looking, women are better than men (on average) to read body langage (thats straight from my school books
) and are quite good at spotting needy and/or desperate people. So, if you focus on being happy with your single life, you'll look more confident (& the opposite sex likes that 
), which will help when you'll meet the right person.
When will you meet that special someone? Dunno, maybe tomorrow, maybe tonight, maybe in a year, but life has to be enjoyed buddy, enjoy your single life even if it isn't the way you want it to be.
Take care man.
I understand your problem, it is something we live with everyday and it isn't a pleasant weight on our shoulders. But, I agree with what has been already been said; It helps when you aren't looking, women are better than men (on average) to read body langage (thats straight from my school books
) and are quite good at spotting needy and/or desperate people. So, if you focus on being happy with your single life, you'll look more confident (& the opposite sex likes that ), which will help when you'll meet the right person. When will you meet that special someone? Dunno, maybe tomorrow, maybe tonight, maybe in a year, but life has to be enjoyed buddy, enjoy your single life even if it isn't the way you want it to be.
Take care man.
Angel Tarragon
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I found my center about three years ago, it has kept me in blance and harmony right up til now. I never come off as needy. I am happy with all the circumstances in my life right now, as I know they could be aheck of a lot worse, so I'm thankful for what I have.
Right now, it not that I need a significant other, more want to feel completion.
Right now, it not that I need a significant other, more want to feel completion.
DungeonmasterCal
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der_kluge said:
Yaaaaghgghghg...this sounds like this creepy couple who come into the Hastings in Conway and try to trade Yu-Gi-Oh cards with the kids on Saturdays. You have described them exactly. They were finally asked by the management to not come in when the kids were gathered in the card gaming area.
Frukathka...be patient. All things in time. Don't force it.
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Nareau
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Why? Because sometimes love just ain't enough.
The past few relationships I've had began in nightclubs, college, work, role-playing games, an even in an old-school dialup BBS. These aren't the most reliable sources of companionship, but they all share one thing--they required me to be amongst a large group of people that share some of my interests. That is, IME, the single most important thing to finding someone.
Be honest with yourself.
1) Would you want to date someone like you? Why not? Now fix that.
2) What exactly are you looking for? Long-term? Short-term? Smart, funny, beautiful, strong, assertive? What made you turn down your last prospect? Do you have realistic standards, or do you always manage to find something wrong with people?
3) Here's a really touchy one--are you a misogynist? Do you do anything that could be interpreted that way? My experience is that nobody worth being with wants to be with someone who doesn't totally respect them.
4) Why did your last relationship end? Why did it begin? What can you learn from that?
Take things one step at a time. Most people don't go out hunting for "the one". Most people are out there to have a good time, get to know someone, and see what develops. If you're needy or pushy in any way, they'll take off runnin'.
Best of luck to you. Keep in mind--it's ok to be single. Sometimes it's GREAT to be single. What happens if you spend the rest of your life without a single partner? Is that something you can learn to accept, and even enjoy?
Spider
While faith plays many roles in life, it doesn't always produce the kind of concrete results you seem to be after. Perhaps you should give "the man upstairs" a little help by going out more.Frukathka said:
The past few relationships I've had began in nightclubs, college, work, role-playing games, an even in an old-school dialup BBS. These aren't the most reliable sources of companionship, but they all share one thing--they required me to be amongst a large group of people that share some of my interests. That is, IME, the single most important thing to finding someone.
Be honest with yourself.
1) Would you want to date someone like you? Why not? Now fix that.
2) What exactly are you looking for? Long-term? Short-term? Smart, funny, beautiful, strong, assertive? What made you turn down your last prospect? Do you have realistic standards, or do you always manage to find something wrong with people?
3) Here's a really touchy one--are you a misogynist? Do you do anything that could be interpreted that way? My experience is that nobody worth being with wants to be with someone who doesn't totally respect them.
4) Why did your last relationship end? Why did it begin? What can you learn from that?
Take things one step at a time. Most people don't go out hunting for "the one". Most people are out there to have a good time, get to know someone, and see what develops. If you're needy or pushy in any way, they'll take off runnin'.
Best of luck to you. Keep in mind--it's ok to be single. Sometimes it's GREAT to be single. What happens if you spend the rest of your life without a single partner? Is that something you can learn to accept, and even enjoy?
Spider
loki44
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Two words: Eastern Europe
I recently took a trip to Lithuania and believe-you-me, if I was single I wouldn't have made it home. The women are gorgeous but also intelligent, sweet, ambitious and just plain nice. I imagine you'll find a similar situation in Czech Republic, Slovakia, Bulgaria, etc...
Head East young man!
I recently took a trip to Lithuania and believe-you-me, if I was single I wouldn't have made it home. The women are gorgeous but also intelligent, sweet, ambitious and just plain nice. I imagine you'll find a similar situation in Czech Republic, Slovakia, Bulgaria, etc...
Head East young man!
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