Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[Teflon Billy]

Then you get women that give mixed signals, like my last relationship with the pot addict.
" Yes, I kissed you on the mouth, but I did not mean it that way." one thing she said to me excatly. Or when she stayed overnight, many times, laying right against me in only one of my tshirts and her panties, but I could not do anything because we were just friends and she did not want to lead me on. Yup, I love it when women are totally straghtforward like this.

I'd have gone for it.

A girl in my bed with me, in nothing but panties?

At some point you just have t oplay the cards you are dealt. If she didn't mean it "That way" I'd call her a cab.

I've done exactly that come to think of it.

I wonder what makes a woman think I'm a eunuch?

Sleep on my couch? Fine. See you in the morning.

Sleep in my bed clothed? OK, message recieved.

Get undressed and get into bed with me? IT'S ON!!!

 

[Teflon Billy]

In my experience, folks who send you all the signals and then deny that they mean anything are attention whores.

That has long been my assumption as well.

 

[Teflon Billy]

der_kluge, I have that book. My parents bought it for me out of sympathy for my situation. It deals more on how to have a physical relationship with women. I'm not looking for that. I need an emotional relationship....

Then this whole thread should've ended when AlsiH2o posted the following comment

[bq]Too much love to give? I guarantee you here is a community of the mentally or physically handicapped in your area dying for a volunteer. An old folks home. A lonely, elderly widow on your block. A humane shelter full of abandoned animals. A big brother program.

You can share your love with the folks who need it or admit what you want isn't someone to share your "too much love" with, but that you are wanting what you get back form someone or wanting sex.

There are too many people and organizations longing for help to be lonely and have a surplus of love. Find them, or be realistic about what you really want.[/bq]

Pay extra attention to the final sentence there man.

If you just want somoen to think you are special and appreciate you without any physical pleasuring, then just go volunteer somewhere.

It would seem alittle hollow to me (and I can't imagine much intimacy would be in the works) but if what you are really looking for is a platonic relationship (as you claim to be) then these are not hard to come by.

But I suspect that isn't the case.

 

[KenM]

I'd have gone for it.

A girl in my bed with me, in nothing but panties?

At some point you just have t oplay the cards you are dealt. If she didn't mean it "That way" I'd call her a cab.

I've done exactly that come to think of it.

I wonder what makes a woman think I'm a eunuch?

Sleep on my couch? Fine. See you in the morning.

Sleep in my bed clothed? OK, message recieved.

Get undressed and get into bed with me? IT'S ON!!!

She was in on of my tshirts and panties, not just panties. I did try and go for it, but she kept moving my hands to "safe" places. I did not want to be a total ass because she told me in the past she was assulted a few times, so I had to be real careful. I did not want her to think i was doing the same thing and then get in legal trouble, ect.. Maybe I was too much of a nice guy in that way.

 

[Ravellion]

She was in on of my tshirts and panties, not just panties. I did try and go for it, but she kept moving my hands to "safe" places. I did not want to be a total ass because she told me in the past she was assulted a few times, so I had to be real careful. I did not want her to think i was doing the same thing and then get in legal trouble, ect.. Maybe I was too much of a nice guy in that way.

Way too nice.

If she moves your hand away to safe places, keep it there for a while, then move it back. If she then again moves your hand away to safe places, keep it there for a while, then move it back to an 'unsafe place'. Keep going until she gives a clear signal.

Think of it as a conversation (don't actually say anything ):
"I want you" (move hand to bum)
"I am not sure" (moves hand to lower back)
"Really? What can I do to make up your mind?" (move hand to thigh)
"I don't know..." (move hand to hip)
"We could have a really good time... trust me" (move hand to shoulder, brush against side of breast)
etc.


Keep going until you get one of the following two:
1) "Look this is jsut not going to work... where's the sofa?"
2) *not moves hand away* - I hope you can take it from here.

A win-win situation for you!

Rav

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

You should hook up with Xath. She's cute, and single.

Not true, actually... well, the part about her being cute is true... but - Xath has a loving and wonderful boyfriend that she's been with for quite some time (approaching a year soon, I believe.) *claps for Xath and Archon (Gertie and Mik in real life)*

Though AlsiH2o's/Xath's/TB's advice is really, really great. Sharing all of the love you have with the local animal shelter, assisted living facility, soup kitchen, Big Brother Program, children's hospital, etc is really a wonderful way to feel loved in return.

I think that everyone knows what it is like to give and give and give in some area of their life and - in the end - have their proverbial "cup" left empty for lack of returns. However - sharing your passion, compassion, and love in these fields will - no doubt - yield a surplus and your proverbial "cup" would be full to overflowing... and when that happens, you are truly happy.

 

[Henry]

I think that everyone knows what it is like to give and give and give in some area of their life and - in the end - have their proverbial "cup" left empty for lack of returns. However - sharing your passion, compassion, and love in these fields will - no doubt - yield a surplus and your proverbial "cup" would be full to overflowing... and when that happens, you are truly happy.

You know, volunteering would have one other effect - it would raise your skills at social interaction and any problems with self-esteem. The more centered and complete you get as yourself, the more your chances of finding a meaningful relationship will improve.

Not saying you should, it's just something to think about.

 

[der_kluge]

I had a roommate who was a walking soap opera. I don't recommend that you be like him, but he certainly had no problems in this area.

He commented that every time he went to church, he had more women than he could beat off with a stick.

So, if you're into church, give that a shot. Attend a couple.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I had a roommate who was a walking soap opera. I don't recommend that you be like him, but he certainly had no problems in this area.

He commented that every time he went to church, he had more women than he could beat off with a stick.

So, if you're into church, give that a shot. Attend a couple.

Am I alone in thinking that going to church with the express purpose to get chicks is ... wrong?

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Terrible advice. Truly terrible.

You will be placed on her "Good Friends" list in no time flat.

It's better than the "enemies" list...

And being friends is not bad... that way if a relationship doesn't work out, then hopefully, you two can remain friends afterwards. I may have alot of male friends but am not wanting to push it with the one friend because he had a really BAD relationship a few years ago and is afraid of getting hurt again. That and I've only known him for 2.5/nearly 3 months... I also have a feeling that his parents/family don't like be just 'cause I'm a friend of his who was willing to drive THAT far to take him places... That's ok, 'cause I have no respect for them either, for the way they treat him (like dog

).

But I feel that it should be friends first, lovers second. Only because it'd be nice to have them still be friends no matter how the relationship turns out.... If it gets serious, then COOL, but if it doesn't, then there's being friends. Which is alot better than hating one another. Life's too short to hate people.