Why must a loving soul be so alone...

[FreeXenon]

What worked for me:

1. Having a sense of humor.
2. Being able to give a good massage.
3. Making chocolate mousse cheesecake.
4. Knowing what I wanted from a woman and not wasting (much) time with those who didn't meet my few core requirements.

Haven't tried the 'chocolate mousse cheesecake' thing but that sounds awesome.

I read the book 'Be your own Dating Service' and the one thing that I really took from it was what DaveMage just said in #4.

She specifically said make a list of those traits that you absolutely must have in your partner to be happy, and make a list of those traits that you absolutely cannot have in a partner. Find and filter your potentials based off this. This can be a good exercise in self exploration and realizing what you really want and/need. Give it a try.

 

[Berandor]

I know plenty of those types. Back before my married days - there were plenty of young men at my church that had no reason to be there outside of scoring a hot innocent Christian girl... but - at the same time - there were plenty of young women there happy to play that game.

Church is a *really* interesting place.

German churches are full of elderly people with nary an under-60-person in sight.

Then again, maybe these ladies *are* looking for a date...

 

[Desdichado]

Frankly, you guys need to get your brains out of your Levi's and actually THINK for once!

Based on those comments, I don't think it's their brains that they're trying to get out of their Levi's...

 

[Darth K'Trava]

German churches are full of elderly people with nary an under-60-person in sight.

Then again, maybe these ladies *are* looking for a date...

Just like some of the churches I've been to here in the US... There's a few younger folk but most are older people. When I'm off work, I attend church with my friend Bill but I don't use it as a way to get dates... or friends either... I save that for SF cons!

That's where I met my friend at... I'd seen him briefly last year at a con but he was holding a conversation with Bill regarding artwork and I had no idea who he was at the time....

 

[Darth K'Trava]

Based on those comments, I don't think it's their brains that they're trying to get out of their Levi's...

They think more with that lower brain than the upper one, me thinks... And "brains" is such a relative term for those kinds of guys who've posted on this thread....

 

[Desdichado]

Just like some of the churches I've been to here in the US... There's a few younger folk but most are older people. When I'm off work, I attend church with my friend Bill but I don't use it as a way to get dates... or friends either... I save that for SF cons!

Where I grew up in Texas, most people seemed to go to church at least occasionally. Folks were pretty religious in a laissez-faire kinda way. But it seemed more like a social club than an actual religion for most of them, so I can totally see what you mean. Lots of student congregations and whatnot at Texas A&M that were more about hookin' up than anything else.

But, I probably shouldn't say too much more about that here... there was an interesting thread at nothingland a month or two ago about religious attitudes in America. Suffice it to say that going to church to meet girls seems like it's not really all that uncommon, and you can expect some modicum of success.

After all, I met my wife at church -- although that's not why I was going.

 

[reveal]

Based on those comments, I don't think it's their brains that they're trying to get out of their Levi's...

I've got a lovely bunch of coconuts...

 

[Xath]

Also, if you have a local Ikea, that's a good place to meet single people. Mostly because it's filled with divorcees trying to find inexpensive furnature. It's crazy. Some people go to Ikea like it's the local bar to try to meet people.

 

[Desdichado]

Also, if you have a local Ikea, that's a good place to meet single people. Mostly because it's filled with divorcees trying to find inexpensive furnature. It's crazy. Some people go to Ikea like it's the local bar to try to meet people.

Wow, that's weird. We're getting an Ikea put in where I live, not 5 minutes from my house. I'll have to look around; it amuses me to no end to think of it as a meat-market. The one time I'd been in one previously I thought of it as a young yuppie parent hangout with their 1.5 kids in tow.

 

[reveal]

The one time I'd been in one previously I thought of it as a young yuppie parent hangout with their 1.5 kids in tow.

I always thought that niche was taken by Pier 1 Imports.