Would your group stop a woman from joining?

[Shemeska]

*shrug* It's no more wrong for it to exist than for womens only colleges to exist. Interperet that as you see fit.

As for me personally, no I'd never exclude anyone based on gender. Half my group is male, the other half female. It's never been an issue at all, and among responsible adults in all but the most extraordinary circumstances I can't see a valid reason to reject women from a 'guys game' or guys from a 'womens game'.

 

[Space Coyote]

Nope. That's not said anywhere in the poll nor in the original post.

Well then, in that case I dont understand the point of the question. If gender has no bearing on the question, the question could be "Would your group stop a person from joining?"

 

[DonTadow]

You're reading sexism into my post. That's your bias.

Nowhere do I make any judgments about all female gamers based on my experience. Nowhere do I say that I am superior, or that female gamers are inferior.

I've described my experiences, and I've admitted the choice that I made because of those experiences. And that choice--to keep my game a Guys Only thing--is mine, right or wrong.

It's not sexism. It's just a choice.

The "majority" you speak of...well, they're just wrong.

To interpret something, I would have to read it into it. But you flat out say I won't invite women into my party, you've done "your part" and thats it. If you take the negativity out of the word sexist, and apply it in its purest defination, your mindset is that you won't invite any more women into your game. That is sexist. And the sad thing is that you don't realize it because you're hiding behind the fact that "it is a choice.l"

Not being a minority, I presume, you've never heard this before and thus you see no problem with having such an opinion. But I can't tell you how many times I've heard' "I'm not racist but its my choice not to have black people in my home". You are saying the exact same thing except it is sexism. Believe what you want. Have an opinion if you will. But call a fish a fish.

If you exclude anyone based on any criteria other than their skill and merit it is racism. Sure bring up the all women colleges or selected country clubs. It's still the same.

 

[palleomortis]

My last three girlfriends (that is someone of the opposite sex whom you spend time with) have been gamer chicks. The beginning of this thread is kind of sexist and offensive to minorities.

Luck son-of-a....*Mumbles inaudable*

 

[Ancient_Red]

I'd be annoyed, but since each group has to make the decision on what they want and what they are comfortable with, it would be awful greedy of me to try to push my way into a group uninvited. If a group didn't want me to play because I was gay, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I wouldn't want to play in a game where I didn't feel welcome, anyhow...

That's interesting. You pretty much defended the positions of most hate groups in the world. Not that I really give a darn, it's just interesting that, coming from someone who's lifestyle is still broadly derided, you would do so. What if the Military took a poll of troops, and it turned out 90% wanted homosexuals banned from service? Majority ruled. It's a democracy. Right or wrong to implement and eject current lesb/gays and prevent future service?
For the record, I agree with you. I personally like the 'majority rules' law. Who made the rule that men can't use a women's restroom? Why not have unisex bathrooms for both to use together? Is there a law? Can you be arrested? -It's that way because society came to the conclusion that this was the proper method, as a group.
I say, be discriminative. It's your right. Just don't deny others their right to discriminate, because it's aimed at you, or someone like you, or 6'2" blonde headed swahili speaking greeks. It always amazes me that people seem to think their entitled to be treated the same as, or better than, others just because they want it that way. Then those people are the same one's that will look at another or tell their children, "No one ever said life was fair."
Bottom line is, people want. That's it WANT. And if they want something they currently can't have they will find a way to destroy or defame the persons of things that are keeping them from what they want.
That being said, I DO NOT SUPPORT RACISM, BIGGOTRY, OR BLIND HATE!! My point is to be taken in a more civilized setting. Kinda like I discriminate against mayonaise because I don't like the taste. Others do like the taste.

 

[DonTadow]

Luck son-of-a....*Mumbles inaudable*

My friends say the same thing. "How do you manage to get fine girls role playing. "

I'm going to be honest, I think there are alot of women whom are open to the idea (whom you'd never suspect) but they just want to be asked or taught and guys at the table that smell clean . I think taht attitudes such as "oh its a girl she can't play" really deter most girls to think its some all guy thing or some guys only club. I don't ever want to be in an all guy campaign.

It's how you teach that will either get them hooked or deter that to be "just your thing". My girlfriend is a wonderful player and has played for a year and a half now. she's going to DM an adventure in July.

 

[bolen]

No but my nephew would he is five and he told me girls are icky

But if you are over five I am not really sure I understand the point.

 

[Templeton580]

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[Razz0putin]

Do you understand the need for any male-only activities?

Hanging with your male friends instead of them and their GFs and wifes or other females is pretty different, wouldn't you agree?

If you can understand that line of reasoning, then explain why D&D can't be that activity?

edit: whoops, I accidentally used almost insulting tone. sorry.

answers and comments to your questions follow, in order of apperance

I understand it (darn it now I think I just went back on my original post )
I could see it but that's different than what was originally asked. What was originally asked as I understood it was would someone ban a woman from playing just because she was a woman. That's something I hope to never "get".

sometimes a different vibe yes

It can but I generally prefer not. That's part of the reason I think our hobby looks "so fun" (btw I was being sarcastic ) to women when they first see it and at other times. However with that said if you want a guy's night out I think you're limiting your options but kay sura sura (horribly bad spelling I know)

No you didn't but thanks for the thought

 

[Trance Fiend]

I'm a female GM and I would keep any individual out of my game if a) I thought they would be a bad fit with the current group & campaign or b) if there were already enough people in the game (6 is my upper limit for being able to actually enjoy running).

I would not exclude someone merely on the basis of gender, orientation, experienece or anything else, however.

That being said, I am very protective of my game. Two weeks ago I had a sticky situation where one member of the group (my husband's oldest friend), took adavantage of the fact that another member (this person's ex-girlfriend) was away to bring his current girlfriend to the game. He claimed that she did not want to join, she just wanted to watch to see "what it was all about".

Thing is, he never asked me. He just called a few hours before the game to inform my husband that he was bringing this person along, so she could sit and watch us play. I tried to get him on his cell phone to talk to him about it, but he claimed he never checked his messages.

So they show up on the doorstep, and I (calmly, firmly, and I think politely) explained that, while she was welcome to hang out with us, maybe watch a movie, we would not be playing if she was there. He ended up driving her back home and then coming back, and we had a good long talk. Hopefully he knows never to try that nonsense with me again.

Everyone at the table should be at least comfortable with everyone else, otherwise no-one ends up having any fun.

Yep, same thing happened to me. I started gaming after I broke up with this one girl. I just happened to call my ex girlfriend the day of the game I was GMing, and when she asked what I was doing tonight, I tried to explain the whole D&D thing to her. She was bored and wanted to check it out. So I asked the guys if they wouldn't mind if she came to watch, they said NO!!! It was weird trying to explain why it would be weird to have her there. We had just started gaming at the time...by now we have had plently of people stop by to visit while we were in the middle of our game, so it's no big deal now.