Anyone ever in a similar situation who can offer from 1st-hand advice?
Yup, I've been there. From both sides. And it bites anyway you look at it.
I'd advise you to keep quiet it really isn't worth the grief to everyone involved.
The guy (lets call him Morgan) is a good friend of mine whom I roleplay with. They’ve been dating for a good year and a half, and he really loves her too.
Put the shoe on the other foot, if Morgan did this to you, how would you feel? What kind of a person would you think him to be afterwards? Do
you want to be that person?
Now, Ann it seems from my perspective loves him too, but is somewhat frustrated with him, and kinda tired of some of his antics.
Part and parsel of the course of long term relationships. Particularly at around the one/1.5 year mark, when the mystique of someone new has worn off and parts of the relationship has become a somewhat routine. It's never "happily ever after", but that doesn't mean it won't last.
Be happy that Morgan found somebody special.
Be happy for Ann that she found somebody special (after all, he's your best friend, so you must think he's a good guy).
But I simply cannot imagine forgetting about Ann.
I know it seems like that now, but you can, and will get over it. It takes time and hurts like a b***h in the meantime. But it does get better.
[quore]I can get Ann and possibly lose Morgan...[/quote]
There is a third possibility you haven't brought up. You could lose them
both, and other friends who get caught in crossfire.
Ultimately, my advice, for what it's worth, would be to give yourself a little space. Don't stop hanging with them, but start something new in your own life. Meet some new people.
Easier said than done, I know.
David