Mishihari Lord said:
The rest of your post is right on, but this little bit is BS. Friends look out for each other. If someone's stabbing my friend in the back, be sure I'm going to try to help him out. If it's my firned, then it's my business. That's a big part of what friendship is about.
Yeah, friends look out for each other. But the post says
all three of them are friends. So, who do you look out for? If you spak, all of them will be hurt. Saying someting here may end up with a divorce. Years of pain and suffering. Or heaven forfend, worse. These people "aren't close", so Griffonsec is not in a position to tell how this guy will react. And love lives can be dangerous to play with.
Or, for all we know, they have an open marriage, but his telling on her will feel like betrayal to her, and friendships will be ruined for no good reason. We
don't know, and assumign is just darned stupid.
The thing is, if there's a problem between them, she's the one who should be talking to her husband. Not some third party who isn't part of that relationship. Speaking up may destroy something that could otherwise be saved.
So, if you feel something must be said, at least have the common decency to tell her beforehand that you plan to do it. Give her a chance to confess to her husband before you stick your nose in.
And, as before,
have proof. Don't dare start on the basis of "your good word".