Yikes, Conan as turn-on? No, I've never seen anyone who played their barbarian like a sexy walking stick. Usually, these characters are played as power/competence fantasies by male players.
Lets not get into the whole muscular male is a power fantasy, while attractive female is sexist, debate. There are enough
Fabio like romance book covers to show there is a female desire for it.
There is this third-person narrative kind of play ("She does XYZ") besides the fully immersive first-person play ("I do XYZ") where players play their characters, but not *as* their characters. It is far more common than you'd think.
Ah I get you writing their own mental erotic fanfic as it were. Okay I can see that can be an issue, but I guess the
GM also has a lot of control over things, it takes too to tango as it were. They can always fade to black or rebuff any advances if appropriate.
If you cannot see the connection, then fine. You'll certainly create no such character in your RPGing carreer then
The in the majority of games I've played the sexuality of a character rarely comes up, be the character male or female. This is especially true in D&D too busy kicking ass and taking names, crawling round dungeons does not present the greatest opportunities for romantic involvement.You might think the sex of a character doesn't matter in this case but I think when I'm designing a character it often speaks to a particular sex.
Of course there are so many ways of playing D&D that sure it does come up in some plots. On the occasions it does come up it is handled off camera, character has a love interest but who he/she might spend downtime with, but it isn't roleplayed out most of the time. When it does occur in game, things usually fade to black.
Except on one memorable occasion where the GM had ninjas storm the inn room while my character and another PC were naked in the act. Looking back I wonder if it was anything to do with it being his IRL girlfriend's character... Nah, couldn't have been. To be fair we'd been playing together for years, and so we were more comfortable handling relationship stuff in game, than I would be with other groups.
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Most recently where the sex of a character mattered, we are playing Curse of the Crimson Throne, my character is the only female character in the group, a gutter rat rogue, named Little Robin', she's like the minimum age and height for a human, basically looks like almost like a child. The adventure calls for one of the NPCs to basically act as a female romance interest and ally and the GM played them like that. Being overly charming to my character because it is female... (I think he forgot that although my character is female, how young and immature she looked).
As soon as he was out of earshot the group were like, "Wow, he's a bit 'creepy uncle' isn't he? Was he really flirting with you?" look of disgust on my face, "Yeah, he's like what twice my age?" then mocking the NPCs voice "Come to my fencing school we should spar together." laughing "I won't be playing with his sword in a hurry."
What should have been an ally, has just become seen as a potential threat, because of a simple slip of not recalling the characters appearance.
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There are games I've played where relationships tend to come up more often. Cyberpunk seemed to come up a lot (I suspect due to the Lifepath mechanic). Monsterhearts it is a key part, but like other games even then it is a case of fade to black or just handled off camera.
Does make me wonder how often the libido of a character comes up in play for most characters/groups?