I can quite understand how you (the original poster) feel. I often have felt a bit nervous about admitting my hobby to anyone, because of a certain social stigma that it carries in some people's minds.
However, a bit of age and experience has taught me a valuable lesson: there will
always be people who try to do or say things in order to "elevate" themselves from others (psychologically). It's basically a sort of elitist attitute, and it exists in the gaming world as much as it does in the real world. It's all part of that Holier than Thou/Geeker than Thou/Cooler than Thou/Smarter than Thou/Better than Thou/etc. mentality.
It'll never go away, but then again, it isn't worth much, either. It's a waste of time and energy to perpetuate it as it is to worry about defending yourself against it.
Hell, my g/f is a gamer, likes anything green (clothes, decorations, dice, Lantern, Arrow, etc.), and still still teases me for being a Texan (her family's originally from Massachucets, although she was born & grew up a bit in Georgia).
Personally, I'm overweight & quite the introvert. I'm not a good poster-child for the hobby. Then again, guess what?
Hi, I'm AFGNCAAP, and I have social anxiety disorder. I also happen to have hypothyroidism (hereditary--from my maternal grandmother's side), which doesn't help my metabolism/weight or my SAD any, either. On top of that, I'm pretty much allergic to anything that isn't food, animals, or medicine (mold, pollen, dust, etc.), & I happen to have been born & raised near SA, one of the
worst places in Texas, much less the US, for anyone who has allergies like mine. The allergies alone have been a decent incentive for me
not to "get out more."
I'm also nearing 30 (I'll hit that mark this year by the winter solstice), have a house, a M.A. in English, a very good and patient girlfriend of 5+ years, ridiculously good-hearted and supportive parents, and way too many cats. Things could be
much worse.
I think that the stigma still gets to me sometimes, but honestly, I think it's the SAD kicking in (I've only been diagnosed with hypothyroidism & SAD since 2002--most likely, I've had this for quite some time but didn't know about it until recently).
By no means am I suggesting that you (the original poster) may have any medical issues anywhere near mine at all, but I did want to state my personal experience on the matter, and why I think that (in my case) such an issue bothered me so.
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The Baron said:
Though I guess this is sort of a side note, I would like a more "baseline" rules book. From a setting design standpoint, it just seems like godsend. Basic classes and a ways to build new ones. Barebones skills and feats. Keep the spells simple. Get your basic weapons and armor. You can still go to your D and D Setting Book to get all the flavor you want. I guess I'm just a less-specifics, more flexibility type of guy. I'd rather have the big bucket of legos than the lego ship to piece together.
And although d20 fantasy is my thing, Dungeons and Dragons, to a certain degree, is not. I feel a more baseline rule book would encourage more creativity among devlopers, whether it's Wizards of the Coast or lil' or me at my computer. Easier to draw outside the lines when they're not there.
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Well, though perhaps not to the very barebones degree that you may like to see, how about using the Generic Classes from
Unearthed Arcana? More freedom for developing certain types of PCs, and less classes to work with. In additon to this, you could easily limit the spells available to Spellcasters, use onyl what you want out of the MM and other such resources, etc.
Then again, I was a big fan of the Generic classes when they appeared. I'm still working on more class-abilities-made-feat chains, PrCs made for use with the Generic classes, generic spells, & other such stuff to use with this rules variant.