In my group I have introduced 9 new players into 4e. Not one of them will ever buy any of the books. But they are all playing, enjoying and are generally enthused about the game. I have the books and thats enough for everyone.
However, they have all bought their own dice and figures.
It seems strange that people can so vehemently desire the failure of 4e, or can read into any piece of information in a way that twists the meaning into some warped support that their desire of 4e's doom, is an immenent reality.
All that negativity and negative emotions isn't going to change the reality, whatever that may be. All it will cause is stoach ulcers and cancer. Put down your cross and let it be.
I guess that groups like yours are what Pramas is talking about. Unless they buy a lot of minis, that's a lot of fun you guys are getting out of the game without actually putting much of the folding stuff in the WotC pocket. Which is fine, of course -- there's no reason why people should pay for things they don't feel they need -- but it does show that "enjoying the game" and "commercial success" aren't always the same thing.