I know your points and I am rejecting them. Your point is is that, I as a small publisher should beg and plead Wizards to let me work on their game, or I should go the less polite option and ignore the license ... because D&D is just that worth it.
I am saying, I don't have to. I have an inviting environment over here that (according to several publishers that quit creating 3rd party 4E material and now produce 3rd party Pathfinder material, according to DriveThruRPG's numbers, according another source that I privately shared with Morris) sells in greater numbers.
Seriously, I can't state it any more clearly. Wizards has to change, not me. As it stands now, I'm not interested in working on 4E in any capacity and I am really stumped why any company would really want to.
I think you and he are really talking at cross purposes. At the risk of putting words in his mouth, I believe he's asking why should WOTC care that 3PPs are chosing Paizo over them. What is the benefit to WOTC's bottom line of having you or anyone else publishing.
I guess it comes down to whether or not you think Dancy's networking theory was correct.