AuldGrump said:
Or even deconstructed poetry in English Comp.. Keats it was, Ode to a Grecian Urn, when I saw a girl reduced to tears by the arguments about the Truth is Beauty line.... (My own take? Keats thought that the line sounded good, that it was, in essence, a throw away line.)
Man, no kidding, people get persnicketty about anything they get invested in.
And, of course, the
other guy is ALWAYS worse.
I think that's what gets under my skin, personally. I'm not too offended by people flying off the handle and getting rude about things. As a student of religion, living in one of the world's biggest metropolises, I've seen more than my share of people overreacting to petty little annoyances to know that the original getting peeved is mostly automatic. It's a basic emotional reaction.
The bigger problem is when people start to assume victimhood, to assume that they are somehow uniquely or especially put-upon by the other side, that the other team is
actually the worse offender, put themselves up on their cross and say, "Look at me, look at me, I am suffering so mightily at the wickedness of those OTHER FOLKS!", to deny their preference is one of emotion, and to insist it is one of logical or emotional superiority. "Clearly, more
civilized people will like Brand X! Look at all those barbarians raging at it!"
That gets under my skin because, I think, it is the beginning of a process of justifying their own perspective by trying to make it objective. They deny that they have subjectivity, that they insist
those other guys are subjective, but that they, themselves, are objective, and are thus able to determine which side is actually the aggrieved party. It ties into my knee-jerk dislike of elitism and arrogance, since it's a very arrogant position, to be so unaware of yourself, and so condescending towards others, that you feel you know what's best for them. It's like a basic failing of human interaction, at a deep level, not just a flaw in the argument. To start the corrective process would be to start so deep and psychological that you'd need to be a trained therapist to get to the bottom of it. All anyone else can do is essentially give up on having a constructive conversation with those who hold that position.