Announcing ignore lists

[CapnZapp]

It’s pretty been the unwritten rule that when putting someone on ignore, you didn’t need to announce it. You just put them in ignore, and moved on.

I was under the impression it was actually considered bad form to announce your ignores. (Might be that another forum actively sanctioned you for doing that)

(I’ve had someone who knows I’ve put them on ignore continue to send me PMs and quote my posts all the time, arguing with me knowing I never reply and don’t see them).

But how do one know if you have been put on ignore, if putting someone on ignore still means they see your posts and continue to quote you?

 

[Sacrosanct]

I was under the impression it was actually considered bad form to announce your ignores. (Might be that another forum actively sanctioned you for doing that)

unwritten rule means no official rule. Meaning you can't be sanctioned for it, so no, I was never sanctioned for declaring I'm putting someone on ignore. Unwritten rule means a social understanding to do or not do something.

But how do one know if you have been put on ignore, if putting someone on ignore still means they see your posts and continue to quote you?

That's the whole point of my post. How does one know, unless you tell them? That person I was referencing does know, because I have told them. Then when they PM'd me lamenting it, I told them again, so they now decide to quote me in just about every thread I post in to argue with me, knowing that I have them on ignore. Why? Ask them. The only reason I know is because other posters have made comments about "Oh, so and so already said that" so I clicked "view ignored content" only to find out said person keeps doing it to get jibes in knowing they will never be called out for it.

 

[Sacrosanct]

That's actually the reason why I don't like new policy allowing a poster to ask someone not to respond to them (talked about in this thread: Ignore?). To me, it just feels like a way to make the last jab, now enforceable by mods.

Currently, with how it's set up now, people do get the last jab. Well, not really last, because they keep jabbing. As I mentioned just above, I have a poster who constantly quotes me to argue in bath faith to get a jab in, but since they are on my ignore, it's done without reproach and the only way I found out was if something happens to be said by other posters to prompt me to click the "see ignored content" option.

I don't know what the solution is.

 

[Lanefan]

I don't know what the solution is.

Dunno if this would work for you, but my solution is and always has been to never 'ignore' anyone.

Not that I haven't been tempted now and then, mind you...

 

[Deset Gled]

I don't know what the solution is.

In the current system, the best option is probably to leave them off your ignore list, and immediately ask them to stop responding to your posts in each individual thread.

 

[Umbran]

unwritten rule means no official rule. Meaning you can't be sanctioned for it...

Mod Note:

Um... no.

That isn't how EN World Rules work. In fact, over time, we have dinged several people over how they have announced their ignores.

We have only a few basic rules: Keep it civil. Keep it clean. Keep it on topic. Keep it inclusive. These are broad. We have some specific points we call out, like "No religion, no politics", but the list of specific prohibitions is not to be considered comprehensive.

The overall "Keep it civil" is always in force. A poster could be rude in a bazillion ways - it would not be possible for us to list all of them. If, in announcing that you're ignoring someone, we feel that you're being excessively rude, you may see moderator action.

 

[Umbran]

I don't know what the solution is.

The solution is to recognize that in somewhat public spaces, you don't get to control others, and that largely... there's no need to.

The feeling that there's a problem if you don't respond to statements is a figment of our psychology that does not match practical reality. This is the internet, and there are enough people out here that the expectation that you can respond to all of them is not a reasonable one. Some, you will need to just let go unanswered.

If you can't let some of them go... that's not healthy. Don't do that to yourself.

 

[LordEntrails]

so they now decide to quote me in just about every thread I post in to argue with me, knowing that I have them on ignore. Why? Ask them. The only reason I know is because other posters have made comments about "Oh, so and so already said that" so I clicked "view ignored content" only to find out said person keeps doing it to get jibes in knowing they will never be called out for it.

Why would you care? You have ignored them because you chose not to be aware of what they are posting. So again, why would you care what they have said?

So what if a 3rd party says X has already said that? You dont have to reply to 3rd party. It doesnt matter.

Everything you dont like has a solution. Ignore it. Even if someone you have ignored PMs you, ask them not to or simple dont read their posts. If you have to, report it to a mod.