Manbearcat
Legend
Arghh. No, you don't understand. Because that's not how disagreement works!
Watch the difference:
A. I think Italian food is the best cuisine. Because of X, Y, and Z.
B. I think Japanese food is the best cuisine. Because of A, B, and C.
(discussion)
A. I think Italian food is the best cuisine. Because of X, Y, and Z.
B. Well, you don't even know what you like.
One allows for conversation, discussion, and so on. The other (you don't even know what you like) is an immediate end to discussion, because ... where do you go from there?
It is truly baffling to me that there is anyone who remains confused by the idea that trying to tell people that they don't understand their own preferences is (a) a bad idea that (b) does not lead to a productive conversation.
I’m going to be done after clarifying this because this is clearly not a fun conversation for either of us (this is definitely not why I engage in TTRPG discussion).
Your arrangement above is not accurate.
It’s not about taste or preference or what people like. When people like things and they’re working, there is no need for further examination. But (a) when people are having a hard time with x and (b) they think they like x yet (c) can’t puzzle out why they’re having a hard time with x...the conversation is like this (going back to the originating x and y).
Conversation:
Person 1: I like Action Adventure TTRPGing...but something feels off here...
Person 2: Are you sure you broadly like Action Adventure TTRPGing? Maybe you like this other thing? Or maybe you like AA gaming when thing 1 and thing 2 aren’t present?
Because I definitely I like AA TTRPGing and what I like is definitely different from what you like. I like AA TTRPGing because of this thing and that thing. Do you like this thing and that thing?
Person 1: <Responds to the above questions or asks for clarification>.
My life is filled with endless interactions like this and I’m not remotely a social pariah. My engagements with people go swimmingly...there isn’t the kind of offense taken that you’re predicting...and we figure stuff out. And, crazy enough, pretty much everyone in all of my circles (friends, family, work, etc) know I have our collective best interests in mind and they come to me for council.
I am done talking about how to congenially talk about TTRPGing. If I have something to say about the topic at hand I’ll post more, but I’m not doing this line of conversation anymore. If I don’t respond to any reply, I’m not being a jerk. I just don’t want to continue this.