As usual we have hundreds of posts that boil down to a simple argument. Some DMs and players like kitchen sink campaigns, some don't.
My personal preference is a more focused campaign with a limited set of races whether I'm playing or running. I simply have a hard time taking a campaign seriously where a cat person, a person that looks like a fiend, an elephant person, a snake person, a bird person, another bird person completely different from the first bird person walk into a tavern. The (nearly always) human patrons and bartender don't blink an eye at this.
Other people want to open it up to anything, the more the merrier. People should have the freedom to play that manufactured entity warforged if they want.
I think either approach is fine, as are variations of the themes. We all have preferences.
The problem is the hundreds of posts that if the DM doesn't support the kitchen sink approach we're playing he game "wrong".
- The DM shouldn't be such a control freak
- How dare the DM stand in the way of people having fun
- Players have the right to demand any race they want to play
- The DM is being a prima donna who believes their campaign world is a piece of art
I could continue but basically it comes down to: if you don't run a kitchen sink campaign you're doing it wrong.
Why do people feel the need to tell DMs they're doing it wrong? Can't each DM, each table, have a different take on how to run the game? If the DM and players are all having fun, why the **** do you care?
My advice? As a DM do what makes sense to you. You set the stage and the scenery. It has to make sense to you first and foremost. If you want to have the players help build the stage, fantastic! Just don't feel forced into it no matter how many people tell you you're DMing wrong.
Advice for players? If a DM's style doesn't suit you find a different DM or start your own game. No DM can be the right one for every player and vice versa.