Hey, gotta respect living your truth!
But I also strongly feel that there is value in keeping different aspects of the game isolated from one another. I understand that the multitude of settings was part of what tanked TSR back in the day, but I also strongly believe that one of the benefits from having all the different settings was that they could be DIFFERENT. I really feel that the current trend, of using Forgotten Realms as a de facto baseline for all the generic D&D material, does a disservice both to FR and the game at large.
D&D "defaults" (kinda) to the Realms for two reasons, 1) it's the most popular D&D setting ever, and 2) it doesn't really stray that far at all from "core" D&D. There isn't much, if anything, in the hundreds of Realms books that wouldn't work just fine in any standard D&D fantasy campaign. That's part of the reason why I have never understood the level of Realms-hate that gets expressed sometimes. I mean, some of the Greenwoodian naming-conventions get a bit goofy (Volothamp Geddarm?), but other than that . . .
And again, other than (most) of the 5E adventure paths . . . none of the D&D 5E books are Realms books (
EDIT: Oops, except the Sword Coast Adventurer's Guide. One). Volo's and Xanathar's books, despite their title characters being from the Realms, are NOT Realms books. Just as Mordenkainen's and Tasha's books aren't Greyhawk books. Is some of the lore presented borrowed from the Realms? Yup, but again, it's the highly portable lore that dovetails with non-Realms D&D lore or fills a gap where there is none.
Someone else argued that there's nothing wrong with having standard bad guys, and I agree with this statement 100%. But it would be nice to see the expansionist/colonialist human empire presented as the aggressor and go-to villain for once, instead of always being cast as the hero.
Heh, depends on what you mean by "standard bad guys". But I agree, having "bad guys" is okay, and to have a bad-guy organization that avoids being based on the obvious choices (fascists, nazis, slavers) but rather, lets say, an expansionist, capitalist democracy . . . . it'd certainly be a nice change!