I have:
- Used Discord and other such programs
- Used four different forums (including this one)
- Embraced a variety of systems up to and including finally breaking down and accepting 5e
- Used multiple "find a game" tools (e.g. Roll20)
- Actually managed to pull two short-lived groups together that just didn't gel
- Repeatedly made use of Reddit
I put more than a year into trying to find a game of 4e, 13A, SR5e, PF1e, and (as noted) eventually 5e-with-hoped-for-tweaks. I don't want to DM for anyone but the small friend group I have, and zero people in that group are interested in DMing themselves, we've talked about it more than once. If they did, they'd almost certainly run DW or 5e, which wouldn't change my situation. As noted, Hussar has generously offered me a place at his table and I enjoy playing that game very much. But at this point, what have I
left except noting how impossible it has been to actually find a 4e game?