Recent content by DOTTIE

It's not at issue whether you feel you are being harassed. What matters is the grounds you show for someone to think it's been done intentionally to you as harassment, and not by coincidence. If you are offended by people talking at a table, for instance, even if it went against the policy of...

That is the end result of careful investigation and trial, and it still goes bad. No one should be advocating for penalties without any investigation or trial.

I accept it's there, but I think it's still a much safer atmosphere than say a bar or a in terms of the Internet, something like twitter or facebook. Your website is far safer, or free of bad language, etc. Most people posting seem sympathetic to anyone being harassed.

It's questionable whether any of those things are harassment even if they were recorded. You can't say that someone else's choice of words, body language, or taste in humor, is a personal attack just because it could be or you find it offensive no matter what. Offense is not the same thing as...

Gaming is by and large free of harassment of any kind. I'd say it has much less of a problem than an average place.

You should generally want to avoid involving police, unless you absolutely need 9-1-1. The police are not on your side. The public has this misconception that they are, but they are really out to keep the peace. If you are too upset, and riling people up about anything, whatever the issue...

It's almost as if desires for retribution are so high all around, that no one wants anyone helping others make a defense.

I concur there are people who won't stop if asked to stop, but there are others who would. You should be prepared to tell someone who is bothering you they are, and see if they will stop. They might not even be aware of it. But what really doesn't make sense to me is when you say nothing gets...

But in terms of getting someone to address a problem that is happening to someone at a future event, you have to narrow down what you want and entitle people to assess the situation in their own way. You can't force them to agree with you, or expect them to just create an incident or...

You can't address all of those past experiences suddenly. If you ask a stranger for help, you should be specific and address what they can do then and there. It's understandable if you're upset, but the person you're talking isn't omnipotent.

Be courteous and kind. I don't like to get into confrontations with people, either, but you don't have to be confrontational to tell someone what they're doing is bothering you. Once people know it is, they usually stop.

Will this thread be deleted then? What happens?

First, I didn't say anything about men becoming rape monsters. That is crazy! If a game calls upon players to lean over a table, why would you wear a skirt for that? Gaming is definitely a male-dominated hobby, but that doesn't exclude anyone. There is every reason to expect the people there...

The woman should have been taught by her mother how to respect men, to dress conservatively and not provocatively, and not to take provocative stances like leaning over tables with a skirt on. At 13, she shouldn't have been at the store alone, because there are nasty men out there. If someone...