iserith
Magic Wordsmith
I have addressed it with the player who did this, and he has been perfectly accepting of my ruling on the matter for a long time now. He still finds plenty of ways to get his sneak attack in without resorting to the cheese I described. But now, especially at public tables I'm upfront with players about "Hold the cheese please" both in regards to hide/SA/hide, and second rank pole arm butt spikes. Maybe that's defensive DMing but I'm not being paid to DM and you get all kinds on Encounters night. If they don't like it they can go fly a kite.
Building a character for the specific purpose of exploiting a tactic that doesn't make fictional sense is lame. That kind of character has no character at all. I could really give a rats fart if you are doing you max DPR. I have no interest in adjudicating that kind of game, which is why I play 5e, not 4e.
I don't think it's so much lame as it is a failure to understand that players have no control over which rules are applied to resolve a given fictional action. That is firmly in the role of the DM. There can therefore be no exploiting that the DM does not him or herself allow. Players used to another paradigm might not realize this however.
As to the comparison of editions, I don't believe it's an issue of rules sets. Rather, it's an issue of mindsets. D&D 4e DMs had as much power to adjudicate as they like as in any other edition of the game including D&D 5e. It's just that many did not engage with the game in that fashion and I guess the ones in your experience didn't, which left you with a bad taste for the game. Comparison of editions, which can be quite inflammatory on game forums, isn't necessary to make your point in any case.