phindar said:
I think this is short-sighted for two reasons. 1) It naive to expect players to enjoy the game for very long if you punish them for doing the things they enjoy
in general i'd agree with you. on the other hand, if i had to hide, i'd keep a low profile, or at least change name and style, rather than asking people in the street if they recognise me.
i might enjoy being the centre of the attention, but it's only logical that then i suffer the consequences, in this particular case.
it would be different if there was another campaign hook and the DM would be simply annoyed at the player's behavious and decide to punish her in some way.
phindar said:
2) Its not really a consequence if it was something that was going to happen anyway. I'm assuming that this powerful, abusive husband wasn't put into the game merely as background filler, and that its a part of the plot. Which means he's going to turn up, even the characters are being as quiet as a church mouse peeing on cotton.
well, even if he was put there for a reason (as opposed to just be part of the character's background and a possible advance for the campaign) i don't see how is not consequential to the player's action to bring him forth sooner rather than ever.
in fact, the more i think about it, the more it looks like the player might be asking subtely for this confrontation. maybe she wants to face this husband and see what happens anyway. maybe she wants to explore that part of her character history, and instead of telling flat out to the DM, she's acting "in character" to make this... ehm... family reunion happen.
phindar said:
Heroes are supposed to live dangerously. Characters are supposed to take chances.
i agree wholeheartedly. only, they should pay for the consequences of the risks they're taking, be them good or bad.
phindar said:
The trick is to give the character a chance to accomplish her immediate goal (be famous in this case) and to make the consequences interesting (the nemesis showing up), and not have it play like, "You were foolish and now your character is being punished,"
you might have misunderstood me. i wasn't suggesting for the DM to go: "ok, i don't like the way you're playing your character and so the husband shows off".
given her actions and her background, the husband should show up regardless.