forcing your will on others... this can be through trick, through drug, through magic... but it is making someone go against what they would naturally do... talking in most normal fashions can not do so. You can change someones mind by bringing new fact to light or by rephraseing or by even recontextulizing information... all without being manipulative, all without gas lighting, all without con jobing people... all without being a grifter.When you talked about conmen convincing people to do things. But provide another definition then!