And, as a perfect, textbook example of what I just talked about, we have this.
Here is a 100% clear example of a DM for whom the game is more important than the players at the table. Again, totally fair. It's his game, he can run it however he likes. But, the point of this PDF is when you have DM's like this, for whom the game is more important than the players, the players can use something like their X card or their list to quickly realize that this game is not for them.
Everyone's happy. The player doesn't have to deal with stuff coming up at the table, and the DM doesn't have to compromise. Done.
Surplus of players, shortage of DMs. I've discovered over the years its not worth trying to accommodate everyone some players you just can't reach. Sometimes its just incompatible playstyles.
I booted 3 players not so long ago, tried speaking to them but they just played CN stupid and pissed the other 3 off. They got spoken to, kept doing it got booted. 2 of them (a couple) went to another game and ended up getting booted from that. They tried Pathfinder as well and once again got booted. Last I heard they approached the gamestore owner about wanting to run GURPs or something but no one wanted to play with them.
There is something going on there, they have issues but multiple people have tried to help but they just don't fit in anywhere. I warned them (twice even) but when they think fireballing their own party and deliberately set of traps as playing a CN kender type Gnome is fun and don't change ever. Their default approach to combat was also run away or stay as far back as possible and throw stuff at disadvantage.
Harmony of the group, social cohesion and no disruptive players are my main goals in running a group. I don't really care if players have issues whatever they may be but they got told upfront, warned twice and then got the boot.
They can play an X card all they like, they can insist on no debate if they want, my X card trumps theirs. The right to have fun playing D&D trumps a player right to be a moron. Gamestore owner has a list of players wanting games, he does veto anything obvious he picks up so he is already filtering out problem players using his own X card and then the individual DMs can filter the players again, he'll back the DMs call pretty much every time.
Every group has female players, one has a female DM and several female players. So he is creating a safe space for everyone else.