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Cursing
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Infiniti2000
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I never curse.
But, I sure do
ing swear a lot.
But, I sure do
ing swear a lot.
lonesoldier
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I used to swear a lot in Grade 9 and 10, but I realized just how off-putting that kind of behaviour is. This year, when I swore at lunch while sitting with my friend she was all like, "Wow! You just swore!" (And completely forgot the disgusting thing that caused me to swear). So, two years without cursing daily.
Thinking before you speak is probably the best idea. Often curse words can just be dropped.
"That was a (an))ing) amazing roll!"
Thinking before you speak is probably the best idea. Often curse words can just be dropped.
"That was a (an)
)ing) amazing roll!"
DaveStebbins
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"I wonder why we can think faster than we can speak." -Calvinlonesoldier said:
"Probably so we can think twice." -Hobbes
-Dave
Couple things- first off thank you for the response
The idea of the money- paying those whom catch me in a little of the swearing, might actually have some benifit, because as with everyone, I am broke. Course $.50 might be a bit much for what I am dealing with here.
For the last few years I have been using Farscape curse words (none of which I can spell). That helps, but still one F word sounds similar to another so even that must go.
The "hippopottamus" idea just might help out, or heck thinking before I speak might have an impact, either way it will help.
The rubber band idea- ahh, not so much, I would have to stretch that thing to the breaking point to get the point across. And having someone hit me for swearing, I would be to tempted or might be to reflexive to just punch back- which is never good (I have not hit anyone in over twenty years, and I would rather not harm anyone- so this- well it kinda scares me because I know if I hit someone I would hurt them).
I tell you all this so that the ideas you come up with might be directed towards a clearer path; this is me helping you, help me.
What I have started doing that seems to have an impact is counting the swear words- it makes me think about how much I am doing it. Sense this threads creation I counted thirty three curses- from hell to F, and female dog to a mule to give you an idea of what words I consider. Now I am only talking to my wife, daughter, people at the store, and a few phone conversations- this is not with other carpenters, not with my buddies, so this is a serious problem I need to kick in the next few months. :\
Once again, thank you for your assistance, and please anything you can think of might well be considered.
Have a good weekend all.
The idea of the money- paying those whom catch me in a little of the swearing, might actually have some benifit, because as with everyone, I am broke. Course $.50 might be a bit much for what I am dealing with here.
For the last few years I have been using Farscape curse words (none of which I can spell). That helps, but still one F word sounds similar to another so even that must go.
The "hippopottamus" idea just might help out, or heck thinking before I speak might have an impact, either way it will help.
The rubber band idea- ahh, not so much, I would have to stretch that thing to the breaking point to get the point across. And having someone hit me for swearing, I would be to tempted or might be to reflexive to just punch back- which is never good (I have not hit anyone in over twenty years, and I would rather not harm anyone- so this- well it kinda scares me because I know if I hit someone I would hurt them).
I tell you all this so that the ideas you come up with might be directed towards a clearer path; this is me helping you, help me.
What I have started doing that seems to have an impact is counting the swear words- it makes me think about how much I am doing it. Sense this threads creation I counted thirty three curses- from hell to F, and female dog to a mule to give you an idea of what words I consider. Now I am only talking to my wife, daughter, people at the store, and a few phone conversations- this is not with other carpenters, not with my buddies, so this is a serious problem I need to kick in the next few months. :\
Once again, thank you for your assistance, and please anything you can think of might well be considered.
Have a good weekend all.
der_kluge
Adventurer
Interestingly enough, I introduced an NPC into my game - a fighter named Miles. He cusses like a sailor - because he used to be a sailor. Or, more precisely, a pirate. Though, none of the party members know that.
But what was funny was, after 30 minutes of this guy interacting with the party, dropping f-bombs in almost every sentence, I noticed that pretty much everyone at the table starting dropping f-bombs all over the place. I told them that Miles was a very bad influence on them! I don't think they even really noticed it. It was really funny.
So, hang around with people who don't cuss. That might be a start.
But what was funny was, after 30 minutes of this guy interacting with the party, dropping f-bombs in almost every sentence, I noticed that pretty much everyone at the table starting dropping f-bombs all over the place. I told them that Miles was a very bad influence on them! I don't think they even really noticed it. It was really funny.
So, hang around with people who don't cuss. That might be a start.
I used to curse a lot in college, but I don't so much anymore.
I've found that the curse jar works, as does word substitution.
I especially liked word substitution- used to great effect in many movies over the years, most recently A Christmas Story with Davin McGavin. While using archaic or incongruous words (like pop-culture references) works, pure nonsense words worked best (at least for me).
Saying something like "Oh flarginbibble!" when you're frustrated instead of " Oh F***!" still helps you vent, and will tend to lighten up the room, rather than send people into apoplexy over your language. It will be like a game, and over time, it'll become almost second nature. Now I only REALLY cuss when I mean it, and those around me understand the difference.
Of course, someone down in the Bible Belt (where I am) might just mistake your babbling for Speaking in Tongues...
I've found that the curse jar works, as does word substitution.
I especially liked word substitution- used to great effect in many movies over the years, most recently A Christmas Story with Davin McGavin. While using archaic or incongruous words (like pop-culture references) works, pure nonsense words worked best (at least for me).
Saying something like "Oh flarginbibble!" when you're frustrated instead of " Oh F***!" still helps you vent, and will tend to lighten up the room, rather than send people into apoplexy over your language. It will be like a game, and over time, it'll become almost second nature. Now I only REALLY cuss when I mean it, and those around me understand the difference.
Of course, someone down in the Bible Belt (where I am) might just mistake your babbling for Speaking in Tongues...
Doctor Bomb said:Coincidentally, that "hippopottamus" trick also (usually) works on people that tend to say "uh", "like", "and then" or other brief gap-filling words a lot. It makes them stop long enough to make a sentence in thier head before they start saying the words.
I have a problem with that. I sometimes get all tongue-tied and forget what I was trying to say.
I'll give the hippopottamus trick a try.BTW, I swear a bit too much, too, usually when I'm driving or when I drop something important.
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