Do you ever successfully remain friends with ex's?

[orchid blossom]

I only have one person I could really call an ex. We just looked at each other one day and said "I think we're really just friends." And that's what we were from then on, until I moved several states away.

It's the manner of the breakup that decides it, I think. If it's ugly, no friendship later. If it's just realizing you don't work together, you can become great friends.

 

[Treebore]

Only if we "never fell in love".

 

[BOZ]

only dated one girl long enough to even think of her as an "ex". our "friendship" was almost as lame as our "relationship". i cut her loose right after i got engaged. our friendship was way too one-sided for me to try to justify it to my self-consious wife.

 

[devilbat]

Never. Although I have maintained a business relationship with a couple of them.

 

[Hellefire]

That's what happened with me and OB. We just decided we shouldn't be together and she...she left me behind...*sniff*

Hey OB How ya been? Was a little disappointed you didn't sign up for CDM this time. And a little relieved (shhhhh dont tell anyone)

Aaron

 

[Xath]

I've always dated people who I was good friends with before we entered a "relationship." When it ended, we never returned to the level of friendship that we had had previously.

My first ex, (of 2 months dating) refused to speak to me and claimed that I ruined his life for 6 months. Then he joined the Air Force. He's actually quite happy now, and we talk online fairly frequently and will hang out when he comes home on leave. But it was certainly really wierd for a while.

My second was my best friend before we started dating. Wierd stuff happened so that, while I still wanted to be friends, I didn't want to date him. It took him about 6 months to finally accept this. Now, he'll tolerate me if I come over to his house (which he shares with several of my other friends), but he'd never actually invite me. It's really saddening because he's a pretty cool guy and I miss our friendship.

Perils of dating friends, I suppose.

 

[Teflon Billy]

I can remain "friendly"...as in not crossing to the other side of the street if I see her, and being civil at parties.

But hanging out and suchlike?

No. There's no point.

If it was her that did the breaking up, I bristle at a downgrade from "Sexual Partner" to "just friends".

If it was me that did the breaking up, then I did so because I didn't really want to be around her.

 

[Eltern]

I have for every one of my exes. There's just been a considerable (up to year long) "cooling off" period where we don't really want to interact, if we can help it. But I recently had lunch with my girlfriend and three of my exes, and we all got along well

 

[orchid blossom]

That's what happened with me and OB. We just decided we shouldn't be together and she...she left me behind...*sniff*

Please note, he is referring to being paired off in Cermaic DM.

Hey OB How ya been? Was a little disappointed you didn't sign up for CDM this time. And a little relieved (shhhhh dont tell anyone)

Aaron

I'm getting married in October, so I just didn't have the time to devote to the contest this round. I probably won't go again until the winter competition. I needed a break anyway, it was starting to be more stressful than fun for me. I'm sure a couple contests away will fix that right up too.

Back on topic, dating someone who is already a friend can be weird when it breaks up. I was lucky the guy I dated and I never got really emotionally entangled. It might have been different then. But if we had, we might not of have broken it off at all.

 

[Jeff Wilder]

I'm friends with the majority of my exes. In fact, the ex with whom I was with longest, Cassandra, made the cross-country move seven years ago to San Francisco with me and my then-girlfriend (Michelle, for those keeping score). Cassandra and I were roommates here in SF for four years before she got married. She's still one of my best friends.