I'm a guy, and you can sum up my play style in a single sentance...
I like to be a Good Guy who maims the Bad Guys with pointy, sharp, or heavy objects.
In the past, I tried playing a bard, and it just doesn't work. I prefer being a primary doer and helping the party by causing a net loss in the number of people trying to kill us...rather than giving everybody a bonus to doing that themselves, or fooling around with complicated non-violent solutions; I'm all for trying to find a peaceful solution, but only when it doesn't require extended planning, trickery, and so on.
Basically, my bard only had two official acts...
1. He Fascinated a couple of angry, animated shrubs while the party set them on fire.
2. He managed to not fall off of a precipice that the rest of the party did fall off of.
Long story short, I rerolled a barbarian for the next session. He did several things just in his first session...
1. Killed three drow (two warriors and a priest) in two rounds (Rage>Charge>Power Attack>Kill>Cleave)
2. Killed a black dragon (Rage>Charge>Critical>Critical>Critical>Dead)
3. Sundered a cursed buckler that he himself was wearing (and couldn't take off)
4. Killed two trolls (thanks to his flaming sword)
5. Managed to navigate the party out of a barren wasteland.
Long story short, he was a Good Guy who maimed Bad Guys with a sharp, heavy, flaming object (greatsword). In retrospect, he overshadowed the whole rest of the group...which was fun at the time, but makes the Neutral Good DM in me cringe.
Now, what was the topic?
Oh, right, gender.
In my D&D career, I've only had three girls as players, and one of them was only a casual player, and didn't end up liking it very much, but the other two were definately into it. One seemed to really like the whole nature-girl archetype, and always played druid/dryad sorts of characters. The other (who I'm still DMing for) plays a TN cleric who is the physical manifestation of [Death] (and, in this case, she's Ninja-Death)...it's a lighthearted campaign, evidenced by the fact that the group sorcerer is named Tad Sexington, doesn't have any combat spells, and spent half of the last session 'off camera' with some death priestesses who he had "succeeded a diplomacy check with".
Yeah, I think that's about the limit of my knowledge in the area. Oh, one more thing...
The guys in my various games vary greatly in the kind of characters they play, but (with the exception of Tad's player) all of them are designed around some method of kicking ass, unlike the girls' characters.