Female Enboard members I need some advice....
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MeepoTheMighty
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OH! I almost forgot.
Taking a cue from the "girl gamers" thread a few months ago...
DON'T LOOK DOWN HER SHIRT!
That is all.
Taking a cue from the "girl gamers" thread a few months ago...
DON'T LOOK DOWN HER SHIRT!
That is all.
BOZ
Creature Cataloguer
Re: female perspective?
ah, but at least you know what you would want if you ever got one!
gamer-girls are rare enough in ratio to the guys, and are thus often pretty desirable as mates among them. of course, that gives them the luxury of being able to pick and chose - if they even want to date one of us in the first place.
just remember this, ladies - you are a goddess among the geeks, and avoid all the HNGs!
that said, on to dating advice for the poor young (hopefully, young) fella. i don't have much advice for you, as i'm engaged to the third girl i've ever dated. but, at least, that means i do have some. relax, be yourself, and all that. be honest with her, but not too honest, at least not at first. yeah, avoid mentioning the dream thing, at least for the next month or so. just talk with her like she's any other person, but be sure to give her plenty of consideration, kindness, and most of all patience. don't come on too strong, but don't be completely uninterested (to the point of being rude or overtly vague). like i said, just chat her up casually, talk about things she likes (especially if you've got a shared interest), etc.
anyway, those are some ideas, there are no hard and fast rules, and there are many many more people in this world better qualified to give dating advice than me.
good luck!
Lady Starhawk said:/can't believe she just gave out dating advice considering she's never been on a date/
ah, but at least you know what you would want if you ever got one!
gamer-girls are rare enough in ratio to the guys, and are thus often pretty desirable as mates among them. of course, that gives them the luxury of being able to pick and chose - if they even want to date one of us in the first place.
just remember this, ladies - you are a goddess among the geeks, and avoid all the HNGs!that said, on to dating advice for the poor young (hopefully, young) fella. i don't have much advice for you, as i'm engaged to the third girl i've ever dated. but, at least, that means i do have some.
relax, be yourself, and all that. be honest with her, but not too honest, at least not at first. yeah, avoid mentioning the dream thing, at least for the next month or so. just talk with her like she's any other person, but be sure to give her plenty of consideration, kindness, and most of all patience. don't come on too strong, but don't be completely uninterested (to the point of being rude or overtly vague). like i said, just chat her up casually, talk about things she likes (especially if you've got a shared interest), etc.anyway, those are some ideas, there are no hard and fast rules, and there are many many more people in this world better qualified to give dating advice than me.
good luck!
Paladin
Explorer
Paladinwife here.....Wow... you have a fateful dream about someone you've never met, then she shows up out of the blue and it hasn't crossed your mind that someone could be telling you something?! Ask her out, you can learn everything you want to know about each other on your date...that is what Paladin and I did...and we are now happily married with four children (though I don't recommend four children!
) Of course, it could also be your own untapped psychic powers directing you to her. (Did you take a level of psion recently? ) Anyway, Paladin and I agree, asking her out is the way to go, or you can sit at home and pine away and wonder what MIGHT have been, while she dates Mr. Jock! Good luck!
) Of course, it could also be your own untapped psychic powers directing you to her. (Did you take a level of psion recently? ) Anyway, Paladin and I agree, asking her out is the way to go, or you can sit at home and pine away and wonder what MIGHT have been, while she dates Mr. Jock! Good luck!
Slightly off topic, but yet ON TOPIC....
I once had this dream about a woman who I used to work with. At the time of the dream, I hadn't seen her for like a year. But in the dream, she had this very very 'real' feeling. This was a girl I never really was interested into either, but in the dream, she gave off this intense vibe of loneliness. It was weird.
Then about 3 or so weeks later, I went into my old work place to visit a friend. I didn't expect to see her there, because I heard she moved on to another company. However, I bumped into her there. She had temporarily come back for a month to do extra work or something. But anyways.......when I bumped into her in the hallway, there was this weird moment where she looked at me really weird. Like she wanted to say something but held back. When I saw the expression, I thought of the dream and suddenly I kinda was at a loss for words too. Finally, after an awkward pause, we said our customary 'hellos'. Said "How are you doing lately, blah blah blah....oh yeah? That's nice, blah blah. Good to see you again....Okay, catcha later sometime...blah blah"
But as she walked away, I really (out of intense curiosity) wanted to ask her if.......well..........if she had the same dream I had. And did she see me in it?
Its seems so.....unscientific. But maybe, just maybe......all the speculations on random or hidden human brain abilities could be true? Not just fiction? Could the both of us actually have been in each other's dreams/heads? Is that why she looked at me that way? Did she conjure back up the 'connection' we had? Or....was the look on her face just her trying to remember my name?
I dunno, but I was almost willing to embarrass myself to find out. But then again, I held back and said nothing.
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Back to the problem with the girl. I agree with Takyris. If you're going to start making moves to 'get to know' this girl. Do it nice and easy. Dont' come out blasting right away. Try to see from her point of view if you ever get confused as to how your 'next move' will seem.
Too often, back in high school, I'd take a friend's advice to be bold and go up and ask the girls I liked. I was chicken, but I got the nerve to do it. And you know what? I didn't even stammer or seem nervous. I was actually coming across relaxed and confident. But.......it didn't work. They still said 'no'. Its because they didn't really know me enough. Sure I talked to them a few times here or there. But that's it. I'm still a stranger. Why would they say yes to me? Thank goodness toward the end of my losing streak a girl helped me out of my rut by simply asking me out. (Which by the way, I encourage........c'mon ladies, ask us guys out more often!)
Anyways, I say start talking to the girl when you see openings. Be friendly and natural. Express interest in things she mentions. Work your way into her life bit by bit. Make her feel comfortable around you. But its true, there comes a time where she is finally comfortable around you and there is indeed an opportunity to ask her out. When you see it, THEN don't wait any longer.
True, it could be possible this jock you saw talking to her is a possible rival, but don't let his presence make you rush and mess it up. Yes, start 'working it' soon before he gets ahead of you, but don't rush it. Yes, be yourself, but the best side of yourself. No odious personal habits!
Here's where role-playing skills come in handy. You're gonna role-play the most casual charismatic and confident version of yourself.
Good luck! I'll cross my fingers for you.
p.s. maybe the fact that she was in your dream has something to do with fate?
......well, if you think that kinda stuff might be real that is......
I once had this dream about a woman who I used to work with. At the time of the dream, I hadn't seen her for like a year. But in the dream, she had this very very 'real' feeling. This was a girl I never really was interested into either, but in the dream, she gave off this intense vibe of loneliness. It was weird.
Then about 3 or so weeks later, I went into my old work place to visit a friend. I didn't expect to see her there, because I heard she moved on to another company. However, I bumped into her there. She had temporarily come back for a month to do extra work or something. But anyways.......when I bumped into her in the hallway, there was this weird moment where she looked at me really weird. Like she wanted to say something but held back. When I saw the expression, I thought of the dream and suddenly I kinda was at a loss for words too. Finally, after an awkward pause, we said our customary 'hellos'. Said "How are you doing lately, blah blah blah....oh yeah? That's nice, blah blah. Good to see you again....Okay, catcha later sometime...blah blah"
But as she walked away, I really (out of intense curiosity) wanted to ask her if.......well..........if she had the same dream I had. And did she see me in it?
Its seems so.....unscientific. But maybe, just maybe......all the speculations on random or hidden human brain abilities could be true? Not just fiction? Could the both of us actually have been in each other's dreams/heads? Is that why she looked at me that way? Did she conjure back up the 'connection' we had? Or....was the look on her face just her trying to remember my name?
I dunno, but I was almost willing to embarrass myself to find out. But then again, I held back and said nothing.
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Back to the problem with the girl. I agree with Takyris. If you're going to start making moves to 'get to know' this girl. Do it nice and easy. Dont' come out blasting right away. Try to see from her point of view if you ever get confused as to how your 'next move' will seem.
Too often, back in high school, I'd take a friend's advice to be bold and go up and ask the girls I liked. I was chicken, but I got the nerve to do it. And you know what? I didn't even stammer or seem nervous. I was actually coming across relaxed and confident. But.......it didn't work. They still said 'no'. Its because they didn't really know me enough. Sure I talked to them a few times here or there. But that's it. I'm still a stranger. Why would they say yes to me? Thank goodness toward the end of my losing streak a girl helped me out of my rut by simply asking me out. (Which by the way, I encourage........c'mon ladies, ask us guys out more often!)
Anyways, I say start talking to the girl when you see openings. Be friendly and natural. Express interest in things she mentions. Work your way into her life bit by bit. Make her feel comfortable around you. But its true, there comes a time where she is finally comfortable around you and there is indeed an opportunity to ask her out. When you see it, THEN don't wait any longer.
True, it could be possible this jock you saw talking to her is a possible rival, but don't let his presence make you rush and mess it up. Yes, start 'working it' soon before he gets ahead of you, but don't rush it. Yes, be yourself, but the best side of yourself. No odious personal habits!
Here's where role-playing skills come in handy. You're gonna role-play the most casual charismatic and confident version of yourself.
Good luck! I'll cross my fingers for you.
p.s. maybe the fact that she was in your dream has something to do with fate?
......well, if you think that kinda stuff might be real that is......
Hypersmurf
Moderatarrrrh...
Ask her and be a gentleman about it (no oogling, no offensive language, honest and forthright).
But I'd keep the dream thing to yourself ... or at least until after you're married/engaged if it goes that route. Saying it now will at best make you weird, at worst, cheesy/stalkerish. But after the ring's on her finger (or after you're both deep in relationship mode), then tell her, and it will be sweet (or she'll think you're making it up).
But I'd keep the dream thing to yourself ... or at least until after you're married/engaged if it goes that route. Saying it now will at best make you weird, at worst, cheesy/stalkerish.
But after the ring's on her finger (or after you're both deep in relationship mode), then tell her, and it will be sweet (or she'll think you're making it up).
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Women will tell you to talk to her and ask her out.
I will tell you the same, say hello, be yourself, talk to her and ask her out! What do you have to loose? So what if she says no, she can say yes.
Rewards come to the bold and luck comes to the swift!
I will tell you the same, say hello, be yourself, talk to her and ask her out! What do you have to loose? So what if she says no, she can say yes.
Rewards come to the bold and luck comes to the swift!
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