G&G: Gamers and Girlfriends.

[Scratched_back]

Hi all,

My girlfriend wasn't really into fantasy books, films or stories of any variety as far as I knew when I met her. My gamer's sense was first aroused when I caught site of a Forgotten Realms game for the X-Box that was sat on her shelves, but I said nothing.

Now, when you meet a girl, I think it's a gamer's natural instinct that absolutely forbids you to tell them "Yes pet, once a week four friends and I sit in a loft, hunt down monsters and kill them... for their treasure and their precious precious XP." so obviously my first task was to find and allibi for what I did for four hours once a week in which I couldn't see her, and no, I definitly definitly couldn't put it off.

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

So naturally, I told her that I babysat my best friend's child. Not a COMPLETE lie, because our game was actually once per fortnight, and during alternate weeks I was doing just that. Trying my damndest to ween his little boy on to D&D by giving him toys of dragons and suchlike. His dad encouraged it, because he too is a covert-gamer.

Eventually as our relationship progressed, she began to spend more and more time at my house, where evidence aplenty for gaming was to be found. Everytime she came round I almost got a hernia trying to frickin' clean up that place. "D&D books behind other books? Check. Figures in cases in a cupboard? Check. Oh s**t I left Magic cards everywhere!"

Anyway, one day either she got a little inquisitive or I didn't forensicly secure my room as efficiently as I had been, and she discovered a drow figure laying about somewhere or other. "I fought these in my game the other day!" she announced as I enter the room. My brain ticks for a few seconds trying to determine her meaning. She games? What, she plays D&D? Surely not... hell... how didn't I spot this? She fought drow... hmm... must be a decent level then, ruthless those drow... she must really know what she's doing. I wonder what class she plays... a ranger maybe, she loves the outdoors. She's not religious, maybe just a fighter... damn she'd look good in chain mail...

"What do you play?" I ask hesitantly.
"That game on the X-Box, I saw you looking at it before. I didn't know you could buy the figures though, these look really cool."
"Erm... yeah... they are good aren't they. Actually darling, I've got something to tell you."

And I confessed. I told her everything about the game, my character, the books I hid, what I was REALLY doing on friday nights. Everything. I squealed like she had 23 ranks in Intimidate.

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9 Months on:

I come in from the game, Monday nights now, weekly. She's sat on our sofa (we live together now) in the lounge waiting wide eyed for me to sit down and... yes ladies and gentlemen... tell her about the game.

On one particular occasion, I told her about the game and her response was "What?! A red dragon... in the North?! Is your DM mad?"
I stuttered a reply to "Well no... but he could've been there for a number of reasons..."
to which I recieved the response: "No, he couldn't of actually, it says right here that they have an aversion to cold and their habitats are usually..."
"Yes dear but..."
"Shush, look, it says here *points to the appropriate page in the MM*"
Hmm. What do I say to that? I opt for:
"Yes angel, but the DM might have a very valid reason for the red dragon to be there, he might've been fighting for territory or something. Hunting somebody or something down..."
"Well he bloody better have been, a red dragon in the north! Anyway, I've been reading this whilst you've been out *points again to the MM* and I've decided that when I start playing, I'm going to play a Solar. They look really good."

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Well, she knows I game, I don't have to hide anything from her, she enjoys the stories, reads ALL my books when I'm out, tells me what I should pick for a familiar, and so on. There are however the aspect of the rules to bring up now. Solar indeed!

Cheers all, thanks for reading. Hope I haven't bored you all!

 

[Frostmarrow]

Very entertaining! The girls these days are really shaping up, I must say.

 

[Flyspeck23]

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

I consider roleplaying to be part of my personality. If anybody has a problem with that, screw them.
If I'd be thinking of starting a relationship with someone, I wouldn't try to hide something I spend so much time on as RPGs. If she thinks I'm a nerd because of it, well, so be it - goodbye.

Naturally, my girlfriend's a gamer too.

Cheers all, thanks for reading. Hope I haven't bored you all!

Not at all

 

[Belen]

Never been afraid to tell a girl that I game. Heck, I have broken up with women who tried to get me to quit. I am surprised that you never invited her to play.

 

[Darmanicus]

Hi all,

My girlfriend wasn't really into fantasy books, films or stories of any variety as far as I knew when I met her. My gamer's sense was first aroused when I caught site of a Forgotten Realms game for the X-Box that was sat on her shelves, but I said nothing.

Now, when you meet a girl, I think it's a gamer's natural instinct that absolutely forbids you to tell them "Yes pet, once a week four friends and I sit in a loft, hunt down monsters and kill them... for their treasure and their precious precious XP." so obviously my first task was to find and allibi for what I did for four hours once a week in which I couldn't see her, and no, I definitly definitly couldn't put it off.

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

So naturally, I told her that I babysat my best friend's child. Not a COMPLETE lie, because our game was actually once per fortnight, and during alternate weeks I was doing just that. Trying my damndest to ween his little boy on to D&D by giving him toys of dragons and suchlike. His dad encouraged it, because he too is a covert-gamer.

Eventually as our relationship progressed, she began to spend more and more time at my house, where evidence aplenty for gaming was to be found. Everytime she came round I almost got a hernia trying to frickin' clean up that place. "D&D books behind other books? Check. Figures in cases in a cupboard? Check. Oh s**t I left Magic cards everywhere!"

Anyway, one day either she got a little inquisitive or I didn't forensicly secure my room as efficiently as I had been, and she discovered a drow figure laying about somewhere or other. "I fought these in my game the other day!" she announced as I enter the room. My brain ticks for a few seconds trying to determine her meaning. She games? What, she plays D&D? Surely not... hell... how didn't I spot this? She fought drow... hmm... must be a decent level then, ruthless those drow... she must really know what she's doing. I wonder what class she plays... a ranger maybe, she loves the outdoors. She's not religious, maybe just a fighter... damn she'd look good in chain mail...

"What do you play?" I ask hesitantly.
"That game on the X-Box, I saw you looking at it before. I didn't know you could buy the figures though, these look really cool."
"Erm... yeah... they are good aren't they. Actually darling, I've got something to tell you."

And I confessed. I told her everything about the game, my character, the books I hid, what I was REALLY doing on friday nights. Everything. I squealed like she had 23 ranks in Intimidate.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
9 Months on:

I come in from the game, Monday nights now, weekly. She's sat on our sofa (we live together now) in the lounge waiting wide eyed for me to sit down and... yes ladies and gentlemen... tell her about the game.

On one particular occasion, I told her about the game and her response was "What?! A red dragon... in the North?! Is your DM mad?"
I stuttered a reply to "Well no... but he could've been there for a number of reasons..."
to which I recieved the response: "No, he couldn't of actually, it says right here that they have an aversion to cold and their habitats are usually..."
"Yes dear but..."
"Shush, look, it says here *points to the appropriate page in the MM*"
Hmm. What do I say to that? I opt for:
"Yes angel, but the DM might have a very valid reason for the red dragon to be there, he might've been fighting for territory or something. Hunting somebody or something down..."
"Well he bloody better have been, a red dragon in the north! Anyway, I've been reading this whilst you've been out *points again to the MM* and I've decided that when I start playing, I'm going to play a Solar. They look really good."

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Well, she knows I game, I don't have to hide anything from her, she enjoys the stories, reads ALL my books when I'm out, tells me what I should pick for a familiar, and so on. There are however the aspect of the rules to bring up now. Solar indeed!

Cheers all, thanks for reading. Hope I haven't bored you all!

That's one of the funniest things I've heard in a long time!!!

 

[TheYeti1775]

Are girlfriends core?

 

[Empress]

Very entertaining! The girls these days are really shaping up, I must say.

Why, thanks!

Have you tried to get her to game with you? Or do you have a traditional boys' club going on? It sounds as if she really enjoys the game.

Though you'd might want to warn your DM of placing his dragons correctly beforehand...

 

[fusangite]

Now, when you meet a girl, I think it's a gamer's natural instinct that absolutely forbids you to tell them "Yes pet, once a week four friends and I sit in a loft, hunt down monsters and kill them... for their treasure and their precious precious XP." so obviously my first task was to find and allibi for what I did for four hours once a week in which I couldn't see her, and no, I definitly definitly couldn't put it off.

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

In the case of my ex, she had already overlooked so many other obvious signs that I wasn't boyfriend material, just in the process of getting to know me, that it didn't occur to me to conceal the gaming. (I ended up converting her and she still games to this day.) Since then, however, I have had just the experience you are talking about, more than once.

The latest was a few weeks ago I was in my department's graduate student computer lab first thing on Easter Sunday morning to download and print off a bunch of stuff in Egyptian heiroglyphic fonts for my game that my home computer can't support when a very attractive woman entered the lab. Not only was she attractive, she struck up a conversation with me in which I discovered we had much in common and that she was a very bright and interesting person. Of course, I was at the lab, a one hour commute from anywhere worth living in metro Toronto first thing on Sunday morning just so I wouldn't be caught by anybody doing gaming-related stuff.

And so the inevitable question arose as to what had brought me into the lab at that time. I sheepishly admitted it was to make copies for an RPG. The game wasn't D&D but my newfound acquaintance had never heard of RPGs... so, in the end, I had to tell her it was D&D. By the time I'd reached the point of admitting that I get up at 8am on statutory holidays in the service of Dungeons and Dragons, I already felt so defensive and apologetic that when she tried to say complimentary things about my passtime, I kept insisting that it wasn't really that defensible and really was just an immature waste of time (imagine Nicholas Cage's character from Adaptation); I fled the lab shortly thereafter.

 

[Sado]

When I used to work at the police department, I made some vague mention of "poker night" to a lot of the cops I knew. They were all either grizzled 20-year veterans or young jock-types just out of the academy, neither of which would be able to appreciate the joys of rpg-ing.

 

[Sarajaine"The Solar"]

I still don't get why you could'nt tell me about gaming. One of my favourite things about you is your geek factor and I love listening about all things DnD.
You have failed to inform the world of gamers that I have sharpened up my rule knoweledge and want to play a druid as I now know I could'nt play a solar :/
This girlfriend catches on quick