Harassment Policies: New Allegations Show More Work To Be Done

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The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.


The alleged harasser in these cases was Sean Patrick Fannon, President of Evil Beagle Games, Brand Manager for Savage Rifts at Pinnacle Entertainment Group, as well as being a game designer and developer with a long history in the tabletop role-playing industry.

There is a long and untenable policy of harassment at conventions that stretches back to science fiction and fantasy fandom in the 1960s. Atlanta's Dragon*Con has been a lightning rod in the discussions about safety at geeky conventions after one of the convention's founders was arrested and pled guilty to three charges of molestation. We have also covered reports of harassment at conventions such as Paizo Con, and inappropriate or harassing behavior by notable industry figures. It is clear that clear harassment policies and firm enforcement of them is needed in spaces where members of our community gather, in order that attendees feel safe to go about their hobby. Some companies, such as Pelgrane Press, now refuse to attend conventions where a clear harassment policy is not available.

Several women have approached me to tell me about encounters with Fannon. Some of them asked not to be named, or to use their reports for background verification only. We also reached out to Sean Patrick Fannon for his comments, and he was willing to address the allegations.

The women that I spoke with had encounters with Fannon that went back to 2013 and 2014 but also happened as recently as the summer of 2017. Each of the locations were in different parts of the country, but all of them occurred when Fannon was a guest of the event.

The worse of the two incidents related to me happened at a convention in the Eastern part of the United States. In going back over texts and messages stretching back years the woman said that it "is frustrating [now] to read these things" because of the cajoling and almost bullying approach that Fannon would use in the messages. She said that Fannon approached her at the con suite of the convention, and after speaking with her for a bit and playing a game with a group in the suite he showed her explicit photos on his cellphone of him engaged in sex acts with a woman.

Fannon's ongoing harassment of this woman would occur both electronically and in person, when they would both be at the same event, and over the course of years he would continue to suggest that she should engage in sexual acts, either with him alone, or with another woman.

Fannon denies the nature of the event, saying "I will assert with confidence that at no time would such a sharing have occurred without my understanding explicit consent on the part of all parties. It may be that, somehow, a miscommunication or misunderstanding occurred; the chaos of a party or social gathering may have created a circumstance of all parties not understanding the same thing within such a discourse. Regardless, I would not have opened such a file and shared it without believing, sincerely, it was a welcome part of the discussion (and in pursuit of further, mutually-expressed intimate interest)."

The second woman, at a different gaming-related event in another part of the country, told of how Fannon, over the course of a day at the event, asked her on four different occasions for hugs, or physical contact with her. Each time she clearly said no to him. The first time she qualified her answer with a "I don't even know you," which prompted Fannon after he saw her for a second time to say "Well, you know me now." She said that because of the multiple attempts in a short period of time that Fannon's behavior felt predatory to her. Afterwards he also attempted to connect with her via Facebook.

Afterwards, this second woman contacted the group that organized the event to share what happened and they reached out to Fannon with their concerns towards his behavior. According to sources within the organization at the time, Fannon - as with the first example - described it to the organizers as a misunderstanding on the woman's part. When asked, he later clarified to us that the misunderstanding was on his own side, saying "Honestly, I should have gotten over myself right at the start, simply owned that I misunderstood, and apologized. In the end, that's what happened, and I walked away from that with a pretty profound sense of how to go forward with my thinking about the personal space of those I don't know or know only in passing."

Both women faced ongoing pressure from Fannon, with one woman the experiences going on for a number of years after the initial convention meeting. In both cases he attempted to continue contact via electronic means with varying degrees of success. A number of screen shots from electronic conversations with Fannon were shared with me by both women.

Diane Bulkeley was willing to come forward and speak on the record of her incidents with Fannon. Fannon made seemingly innocent, and yet inappropriate comments about her body and what he wanted to do with her. She is part of a charity organization that had Fannon as a guest. What happened to her was witnessed by another woman with whom I spoke about that weekend. As Bulkeley heard some things, and her witness others, their experiences are interwoven to describe what happened. Bulkeley described this first encounter at the hotel's elevators: "We were on the floor where our rooms were to go downstairs to the convention floor. I was wearing a tank top and shirt over it that showed my cleavage. He was staring at my chest and said how much he loved my shirt and that I should wear it more often as it makes him hot. For the record I can't help my cleavage is there." Bulkeley went on to describe her mental state towards this "Paying a lady a compliment is one thing, but when you make a direct comment about their chest we have a problem."

Later on in the same day, while unloading some boxes for the convention there was another incident with Fannon. Bulkeley described this: "Well, [the witness and her husband] had to move their stuff from a friends airplane hangar (we all use as storage for cars and stuff) to a storage until next to their house. Apparently Sean, while at the hanger, made grunt noises about my tank top (it was 80 outside) while Tammy was in the truck. I did not see it. But she told me about it. Then as we were unloading the truck at the new facility Sean kept looking down my shirt and saying I have a great view etc. Her husband said to him to knock it off. I rolled my eyes, gave him a glare and continued to work. I did go and put on my event day jacket (light weight jacket) to cover up a little."

The witness, who was in the truck with Fannon, said that he "kept leering down at Diane, glancing down her shirt and making suggestive sounds." The witness said that Fannon commented "'I'm liking the view from up here.'"

Bulkeley talked about how Fannon continued his behavior later on in a restaurant, having dinner with some of the guests of the event. Fannon made inappropriate comments about her body and embarrassed her in front of the other, making her feel uncomfortable throughout the dinner.

Bulkeley said that Fannon also at one point touched her hair without asking, and smelled it as well. "[Fannon] even would smell my long hair. He begged me to not cut it off at a charity function that was part of the weekend's event." She said that he also pressed his pelvis tightly against her body while hugging her. These incidents occurred at a convention during the summer of 2017.

Fannon denies these events. "The comments and actions attributed to me simply did not happen; I categorically and absolutely deny them in their entirety."

When asked for comment, and being informed that this story was being compiled Fannon commented "I do not recall any such circumstance in which the aftermath included a discourse whereby I was informed of distress, anger, or discomfort." He went on to say "The only time I recall having ever been counseled or otherwise spoken to about my behavior in such matters is the Gamers Giving/Total Escape Games situation discussed above. The leader of the organization at that time spoke to me specifically, asked me to be aware that it had been an issue, and requested I be aware of it in the future. It was then formally dropped, and that was the end of it until this time."

There were further reports; however, we have respected the wishes of those women who asked to remain anonymous for fear of online harassment. In researching this article, I talked to multiple women and other witnesses.

About future actions against the alleged behaviors he also said "It is easy, after all, to directly attack and excise obviously predatory and harassing behavior. It is much more difficult to point out and correct behavior that falls within more subtle presentations, and it's more difficult to get folks to see their actions as harmful when they had no intention to cause harm, based on their assumptions of what is and isn't appropriate. It's good for us to look at the core assumptions that lead to those behaviors and continue to challenge them. That's how real and lasting change within society is achieved."

Fannon's weekly column will no longer be running on E.N. World.

Have you suffered harassment at the hands of someone, industry insider or otherwise, at a gaming convention? If you would like to tell your story, you can reach out to me via social media about any alleged incidents. We can speak confidentially, but I will have to know the identity of anyone that I speak with.

This does open up the question of: At what point do conventions become responsible for the actions of their guest, when they are not more closely scrutinizing the backgrounds of those guests? One woman, who is a convention organizer, with whom I spoke for the background of this story told me that word gets around, in the world of comic conventions, when guests and creators cause problems. Apparently this is not yet the case in the world of tabletop role-playing game conventions, because there are a growing number of publishers and designers who have been outed for various types of harassing behavior, but are still being invited to be guest, and in some cases even guests of honor, at gaming conventions around the country. The message that this sends to women who game is pretty clear.

More conventions are rolling out harassment policies for guests and attendees of their conventions. Not only does this help to protect attendees from bad behavior, but it can also help to protect conventions from bad actors within the various communities that gather at our conventions. As incidents of physical and sexual harassment are becoming more visible, it becomes more and more clear that something needs to be done.

additional editorial contributions by Morrus
 

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I think the bigger problem at this point is that people seem so bent on pointing fingers and being right that the presumed subject on how to curb harassment within the RPG community specifically (and overall) is being ignored.
 

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Actually, let's be clear about a few things here.

First, Libel is becoming easier to win in court nowadays. I can refer you to many cases (either won by judgment or settled, resulting in may cases of awards in excess of a million dollars, a simple Google search will display the cases in question).

Given that SPF has apologized, again, for his actions, I don't see a libel case as being likely to be brought forward, do you? Who would be there that has standing to do so, if not SPF himself?

And women who have been harmed by sexual assault won't be helped if you make it easier for them to send people to jail willy nilly. Women have got to use their smarts of they want someone to be arrested for sexual assault, it can't just be her word against his and her word always wins! Women who are truly victims of sexual harassment need to present proof, not just to get her female friends to agree that the man in question is a creep! So the standard then becomes, whoever loses a popularity contest with women goes to jail. That is the standard I don't want to get set, because it means all those popular guys get on those women falling over themselves, while the losers get sent to jail for sexual harassment based on some woman's word on it alone.

Let me guess: you would call the popular guys "Chads" and the women that like the popular guys "Stacys"?
 

I think the bigger problem at this point is that people seem so bent on pointing fingers and being right that the presumed subject on how to curb harassment within the RPG community specifically (and overall) is being ignored.

Yes, let us move the conversation to this point. In doing so we need to analyze some of the problem and responses here more carefully.
Presumption of innocence: In a criminal proceeding that applies. However here and all too often in allegations of harassment that leaves the victims with a conundrum. It is clear even with MULTIPLE accusers,and even admissions, some here seem to think it is okay to presume the accusers are lying by default, until proven otherwise. It seems to be the expectation that until there are MULTIPLE accusations the accuser has no real case because there needs to be a PATTERN of behavior to establish guilt. One problem with that is that means you have to have MULTIPLE victims before one can act. And since single victims dare not speak, they rarely know about other victims, especially in widely separated geographic locations. I am not sure why we are okay with the expectation that multiple victims are needed to protect the reputation of a single perpetrator as long as possible. These basic beliefs have a chilling affect on reporting.
Another again is the assumption the accusers are lying until proven in a court of law. First, in my state, filing a false police report is a class one felony carrying up to four years in jail. If those arguing women routinely lie think that is not enough of a deterrent then nothing would satisfy you.
Other suggestions I have seen here as that women use their phones to video any unwelcome behavior. Now there are several problems with this. First instead of telling men to just behave themselves, you are telling women it is there responsibility to make men behave themselves. That is a poor message to send either gender. Second, the minute we pull out a camera too record the behavior is likely to stop. Third, those who don't want to believe the accuser will use the fact that she was prepared to record it as further evidence she was just setting up some poor guy to get him in trouble. Fourth, in the more aggressive circumstances, taking the means to video away from someone is not that difficult.
You know maybe women should go back to wearing chastity belts too. Or perhaps we should walk about completely covered head to toe so as not to give some passing stranger a misconception about our virtue. Or maybe, just maybe we could start educating individuals about appropriate social behavior.
Finally, and I have appreciated here, calling out the ridiculous levels of twisting and theoretical possibilities to allow the status quo to continue could be helpful. We have seen a lot of that here. Two cases in point, the gentleman I all ready spoke to about using the case of a cheating husband trapped in an affair he wants to end by the threat of allegations of sexual harassment or assault. This person clearly failed to see the cheating husband lying to his wife had a huge credibility issue in the first place, a big moral issue in the second place, and the truly innocent party in his scenario was a woman, his wife.
The other I found incredible that received no push back, the gentleman, when called to state a single case of a false accusation cited a case he acted as juror on where the man was found innocent, or the women guilty I forget which. His scenario: A guy was at a party and met a YOUNG GIRL there. She invited him to a motel with another YOUNG GIRL, obstensibly for pizza. The girls later robbed him and then covered the robbery with false allegations of sexual assault.
He never questioned the man's judgement or morals in going alone to a motel room with two YOUNG GIRLS(his description, not mine). He never discussed how the man 's own questionable judgement led to his predicament.
However if I, as a woman, were to go alone to a motel room with two young men I had just met at a party and were then later assaulted, my judgement and intentions would immediately be called in to question and used against me.
It is this double standard of measurement of what is fair to a man or fair to a woman, what is questionable behavior in a man as opposed to the same behavior in a woman, that has been illustrated here several times. It has to be called out, not shrugged off, or overlooked because it is so NORMAL. It is the idea it takes multiple women to have the same credibility and benefit of the doubt as any single man feels entitled to that needs to be challenged EVERY TIME, in all venues. It is this double standard that throws things out of balance, and it is so pervasive it often goes unnoticed or unchallenged. Start here, then lets move forward again.
 

I think the bigger problem at this point is that people seem so bent on pointing fingers and being right that the presumed subject on how to curb harassment within the RPG community specifically (and overall) is being ignored.
Surely pointing fingers, in the sense of identifying harassers, has to be part of that? A harasser must be identified before they can be removed from a convention or banned from attending.
 

"It is the idea it takes multiple women to have the same credibility and benefit of the doubt as any single man feels entitled to that needs to be challenged EVERY TIME, in all venues. It is this double standard that throws things out of balance, and it is so pervasive it often goes unnoticed or unchallenged. Start here, then lets move forward again."

That's absolutely fair. So let's establish a basic assumption:

Gender should have absolutely no bearing on an accusers credibility, nor on an accused's defense.
 

I have been to many Cons throughout my life and I have had encounters with women (and men) who harassed me or bordered on harassment. I have also recently been harassed because of my sex and color and witnessed signs put up that were NOT inclusive to my sex and color (white/male). Why didn't this thread talk about those instances?

I'm sorry to hear that you have been harassed at conventions because of your sex and your colour. That's terrible.

In answer to your question, the reason why this thread (by which I assume you refer to the article) is not talking about those instances is because we don't know about them.

If you have reports of harassment at a gaming convention, please do contact Chris Helton! We can only cover these things if people come forward with information.
 

"It is the idea it takes multiple women to have the same credibility and benefit of the doubt as any single man feels entitled to that needs to be challenged EVERY TIME, in all venues. It is this double standard that throws things out of balance, and it is so pervasive it often goes unnoticed or unchallenged. Start here, then lets move forward again."

That's absolutely fair. So let's establish a basic assumption:

Gender should have absolutely no bearing on an accusers credibility, nor on an accused's defense.

Fair enough and before I go further I want to add that I appreciate ENWorld, though there have been questionable comments on this thread, I think an effort is being made to treat the topic with respect to all parties. That said, in response to you comment that gender should have no bearing on credibility or defense I can concede that. and now want to take that to the next stage.
If gender truly has no bearing, then it should also have no bearing on the inherent need to take precautions against assault or false allegations. That means simply, if not getting into an elevator alone with a strange man because of the potential risk, the opposite gender should never be alone with a strange woman for fear of a false allegation. If I must watch how I dress, where I go, how I speak etc to avoid a misunderstanding then the opposite gender should also be bending over backwards to avoid any appearance of harassing behavior. Easiest way to do that by the way is never harass anyone. The immediate defense I have heard here to that suggestions is "But how do we know what is going to be called harassment?" Education. Listening. Accepting that freedom bears the responsibility to police ourselves to a large degree. Stop making excuses for bad behavior, your own or others. And a hint from a grandmother with 3 grandsons in their 20's, ask yourself, "Would I say/do something like this to a guy I just met?" If the answer is no, for whatever reason don't say it.
And yes this goes both ways, but reality is, this has all ready applied to women without question in the past.
 

Oh, well then you should read this study on wrongful incarceration.

Estimated rate of wrongful incarceration: . Not very far from 5%, or 1 in 20.

Not to start a new discussion but these 4.1% are people wrongful incarcerated and sentenced to death; the author of the study concludes that "(I)t follows that the rate of innocence must be higher for convicted capital defendants who are not sentenced to death than for those who are".
 

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Sorry, was catching up on the thread and didn't realize that the poster I was replying to got hisself thread banned. No point in making this reply. Nothing to see here.
 
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It has been suggested that I need to "collect my friends" in this thread - specifically, those individuals who have chosen to take my "cause" and use it to advance misogynistic ideas, victim-blaming tactics, MRA agendas, and worse.

Allow me to be intensely clear about this - they are NOT my friends, they in no way speak for me, and I find all such statements reprehensible and unworthy.

If you believe you need to push an agenda that vilifies women for stepping forward to report bad actors, do NOT do so in my defense.

If you believe you need to advance anything that looks like "Not All Men," leave me out of it. We are not friends.

Peace.
 

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