Why, you should start off as a Dwarf Fighter, of course, who wields a Tower Shield in one hand and a Dwarven Waraxe in the other. For bonus points, tack on some spikes to your armor and shield so you'll be like a walking barricade.Well she has just seen the dwarves defender and loves the idea of being a dwarven waraxe widelding tank with swords bouncing off her armor.
So sorry to ask this but how would u go about being this tank
Dream Dwarves take a -2 to Dex and get +2 to Con. No Cha penalty.Although the CHR racial penalty hurts, she might want to look at the Knight class in PHB II which has a "you must attack me, you cannot ignore me" kinda power. d12 HD too.

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Rulebook featuring "high magic" options, including a host of new spells.