Btw do you use Gate Pass Gazette by default or only allow the core stuff by default?I solved this problem by picking a base ruleset (Level Up) and creating a houserule reference document that includes every option I want to have in a game I run from a wide variety of materials, all sourced by title and page number. I have pdfs of every one of those sources, and all of them (along with the reference doc) are available to the players through the wonders of the internet. If a player comes to me with something new, and it doesn't appear ridiculously out of line, I add it to the document.
Yes but a lot of times for those of us who don't care it doesn't come up till a player pulls out a book and says "I like this better" then you house rule. nothing requires you to actually think about it first.
I think I look at game balance, content, etc beforehand because I hate taking things away from folks- I'd rather consider it first than let it ride, and find out later that it's problematic and have to take it away/nerf it.the way I handle that not being anal or OCD and often allowing things before I think it through is if necessary give the other players something to bring parity. God granted abilities, a relic, the right magic item etc. I try to keep all the players at a point that they can feel they are the best in the party at something.
That's definitely my own aversion though
