I m a girl get over it

[fusangite]

All women who have joined gaming groups in which I have been a member have been treated in one of two ways: (a) indistinguishably from the guys or (b) with a kind of sick cloying deference. I have never witnessed or heard of through any real-world acquaintance of the kind of experience you are describing. I would like, therefore, to suggest that the individuals with whom you are interacting are highly exceptional in the gaming world. I've seen guys refuse to take on a female player because the particular gaming group has a "guys' night" kind of feel to it but these are never the bona fide geeks to whom you unfortunately seem to find yourself attracted.

My advice: you and your boyfriend can/should find any other group of male gamers and they will act differently.

 

[Henry]

I do not believe you are who you say you are. He plainly stated that he and his girlfriend live together.
You plainly state that you talk to him on the phone.

These are contradictory statements.

If you are going to impersonate a mans girlfriend at least keep your facts straight.

Um, Wystan, I live with my wife, and talk to her on the phone all the time. Plus, there was a 9-month gap in Scratch_back's narrrative, between him telling all, and them moving in. Let's not jump to judgements unless someone gives reason to.

 

[Ravellion]

Sure, gaming is not gender exclusive. However, I do have a game that is "just the guys". This has been pretty much stated up front - it is our poker night, if you like, and we like it that way - the goal of the game is making the room stink like bloke and drink lots of Grolsch.

Perhaps that is their reason for being apprehensive - they may not have stated it as clearly as we did, but the game may have developed to be that way. A bit immature that they say things like "you wouldn't understand" though.

Rav

 

[Wraith Form]

There are some women and I am most certainly one of them who think that guys who are geeks are extremely hot!

Did you hear that?

That was the sound of me falling in love.....

 

[fusangite]

The point I am making is that I know from first hand experience with my boyfriend that gamers love what they do with a passion so why are you ashamed of it?

Because D&D is a game that most people start as adolescents and grow out of. Like most games, it is therefore viewed as an adolescent passtime and involvement in RPGs is viewed as a sign of immaturity. Immaturity is a turnoff for most potential girlfriends, employers and colleagues and therefore activities that correlate to immaturity are concealed from these people.

 

[DungeonmasterCal]

Easy, easy! Whoooaaa! I don't currently have any female gamers in my group, but it's not because they're not welcome. Over the years there have been many women in the groups I've DM'd, and they have all been great players and contributors. My wife, though she no longer plays (that old group broke up and the players moved away), was just about the best roleplayer I've ever seen. I wish there were more women players in the area where I live.

 

[diaglo]

welcome aboard.

 

[Scratched_back]

I do not believe you are who you say you are. He plainly stated that he and his girlfriend live together.
You plainly state that you talk to him on the phone.

These are contradictory statements.

If you are going to impersonate a mans girlfriend at least keep your facts straight.

Err... she is my girlfriend mate. I think you mis-read, not a problem though!

She does indeed listen to me talk for hours on the phone about gaming - to other people! I call the other guys in the group a lot mid-week to discuss tactics etc, at which point she can hear everything I say.

 

[der_kluge]

I think I express the same opinion as others - find a new group.

I've pretty much always had at least one girl in every game I've ever been regularly involved with. I've never found their presence to be an issue in any of them.

 

[ForceUser]

I do not believe you are who you say you are. He plainly stated that he and his girlfriend live together.
You plainly state that you talk to him on the phone.

These are contradictory statements.

If you are going to impersonate a mans girlfriend at least keep your facts straight.

...he's talking on the phone to his friends, while she sits nearby and listens. Don't be a jerk.

Welcome to ENWorld Sarajaine. Ignore the trolls.