I m a girl get over it

[Desdichado]

Indeed, congratulations on the incoming kiddo. I'm guessing that if you're five months pregnant, that bikini pic is not recent.

Luckily, I've had some success with my two older kids and an impromptu Star Wars game using The Window pretty much as my system. I don't know if they'll be "lifestyle gamers" like me, but at least they'll have a few fond memories of gaming in general.

Oh, and like Mystery Man, I second the call for a bit more information on James Heard's D&D game with strippers...

 

[Elf Witch]

Joshua Dyal - You are probably right but in some cases, I think people go for a certain appearance with the way they dress, talk etc. If you saw a guy walking down the street in a leather outfit with a dyed green mohawk, but then you started talking to him and found out he was an investment banker who enjoyed golf and polo you might be surprised. That's what I was trying to say. Maybe saying "someone who looks like a dork" was not the correct word choice.

(and not to get too OT but I'd love to see your pictures!)

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But this is kind of a myth. No bank would hire a person with a mohawk. Just like if you have an eye brow piercing blockbuster video expects you to either take it out or cover it with a band aid when you work.

The sterotypical gamer is someone who is fat does not bathe wears tacky clothes and lives in his parents basement. Female gamers are all fat don't care how they look or are they are fluff heads who play elven princess with unicorns.

The guys I game with don't fit this at all some have been over weight but some are really in great shape. Most of the guys are married, some have kids, they have good jobs . I know feamle gamers who are thin and slobs. Overweight and slobs. And I know gamergirls who are fat and take care of themselves and girls who are thin and beautiful.

Yet everyone of these guys I play with can be dorky and geeky and most were when they were younger. They grew up and learned how to fit into society without giving up what they love.

When I see gamers who are in the mid 20s who fit the sterotype I have to wonder why. Is it a psychological problem that stops them from being able to fit into mainstream society or is that they don't want to. Is it a badge of honor they wear. Society didn't let them fit in when they were teen agers so why should they bother to try and fit in now, It is the principle that counts.

I used to have arguments with my son when he was younger over getting piercings and tattos how they could hurt him in the future getting good jobs and his answer was well that is not fair it should not matter if he can do the job better than anyone else. But it does matter.

I guess what I have been trying to say is that how you present yourself is how people are going to take you.

 

[MojoGM]

But this is kind of a myth. No bank would hire a person with a mohawk. Just like if you have an eye brow piercing blockbuster video expects you to either take it out or cover it with a band aid when you work.

Of course, you could have a banker who already has the job but dresses in leather, piercings, and spiked hair on the weekends.

You wouldn't expect him to be a banker, but there you are...

 

[Elf Witch]

Of course, you could have a banker who already has the job but dresses in leather, piercings, and spiked hair on the weekends.

You wouldn't expect him to be a banker, but there you are...

Okay you got me there but it would have to be something that he could cover up for work. And the point is he still making the choice to fit into mainstream society.

You can still be a geek and have all the geek hobbies and still use soap and water everyday and have conversations with non geeks.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

So - I haven't read all 7 pages of this thread... but - thought I'd throw in my 2 coppers.

My experience as a woman gamer has been as such: Don't make a big deal about being a woman, and those that play with you will follow - no matter how attractive you are.

 

[MojoGM]

Okay you got me there but it would have to be something that he could cover up for work. And the point is he still making the choice to fit into mainstream society.

You can still be a geek and have all the geek hobbies and still use soap and water everyday and have conversations with non geeks.

I wonder how a large bank or investment firm would react if an employee suddenly came in with a leather coat over his suit, piercings, and a mohawk?

 

[John Morrow]

You can still be a geek and have all the geek hobbies and still use soap and water everyday and have conversations with non geeks.

Attention geeks who are clueless about personal hygiene! If you are an adult, assume that you need to bathe at least once per day or you will not smell good to other people. No, you can't smell how badly you smell to others. No, just because you could get away with a bath every few days as a child does not mean you can get away with the same thing as an adult. And, no, just because people aren't saying something to your face does not mean that they don't talk behind your back or are OK with your body odor.

(Yes, I know there are some exceptions and diet also seems to play a role but I think it's better to be safe than sorry. Yes, I know that many gamers don't stink but given what I've run into in game stores and conventions, too many do. And this isn't just an American problem but some sort of strange international geek/otaku problem. The only Japanese person that I ever ran into with body odor in Japan was in an anime shop in Akihabara.)

 

[Elf Witch]

I wonder how a large bank or investment firm would react if an employee suddenly came in with a leather coat over his suit, piercings, and a mohawk?

LOL They would wonder if he was having some kind of break down if he was say in his mid 30 if he was in his mid 40 they would just chalk it up to a mid life crisis.

 

[I'm A Banana]

You can still be a geek and have all the geek hobbies and still use soap and water everyday and have conversations with non geeks.

Another tr00f statement in this thread.

Also, as far as appearances go, it's more about looking professional than forbidding certain things. If you can don a suit and wear a mohawk and give the impression that you're the kind of guy that the most extreme stodgy old stick-in-the-mud man would absolutely trust with his money, you're fine. Mohawks....generally....don't do that.

Same is true for walking out in public, or hitting on the hotties, or whatever. Gaming is not a lifestyle choice -- it's a hobby. Just because you play poker doesn't mean you have to look like you could be transplanted to the Old West, and just because you roll around d20's doesn't mean you have to smell like cat piss, and just because you are a talented investment banker doesn't mean you can't have a mohawk.

 

[Queen_Dopplepopolis]

I hate to start somekind of feminist rebellion its just a shame that we don't get the same acceptance.

I'd say that statement speaks worlds for the people you play with and less and less for the general community of gamers.

Come to GenCon, Sarajaaine... you will quickly learn that women gamers are less rare than you think... and that most gamer men are totally capable of accepting women as an equal part of their gaming group.