I don't know if many of you have this problem but the DM of my group is too controlling. What I mean is if the game isn't going the way he planned then he is not happy. For example there are times where I have tried to do something and he ignores me and continues with hiw plans. This weekend I had this problem twice and both times I tried to engage in combat that was going to happen no matter what. Now I could overlook the fact more easily if my group consisted of more than two players and a dm but not when there are only two of us! I know that for a fact if my husband (the other player) had said that he was going to attack this bad guy he would have went straight into combat. I have seen it because there were times where I have nudged my husband to being combat and the DM does when he says he will attack. Well why then can't I? There is something seriously wrong with a DM when he lets a wizard/cleric initiate the combat but not the monk! Sorry for the rant but I was just wondering if I was alone in this type of situation.
Is Your DM Too Controlling?
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Personaly, I'd just slam a book on the table, and speaking loudly and authoritativly, demand "Now just hold on. I said I attack. When I say I attack, I attack. Now I'm attacking. Got it?".
Then again, I'm a big guy, and not all of it's fat either (Far too much, but...)... So they usualy humor me
Then again, I'm a big guy, and not all of it's fat either (Far too much, but...)... So they usualy humor me
heh.
I'd just hand the DM my character sheet and say "Guess I didn't realize this fellow was an NPC." if I was repeatedly told what I could or could not do (when what I wanted was in reason.. like starting a combat or saying something in character).
I recommend just being open and clear about this. You're at the table to make choices.. that's what PCs do. In combat they decide whether it's better to fight or flee, use a Magic Missile or a Sleep spell.. out of combat they shape the story with their decisions. If you're not able to do this, you're not really playing the game. You're just rolling dice.
I'd just hand the DM my character sheet and say "Guess I didn't realize this fellow was an NPC." if I was repeatedly told what I could or could not do (when what I wanted was in reason.. like starting a combat or saying something in character).
I recommend just being open and clear about this. You're at the table to make choices.. that's what PCs do. In combat they decide whether it's better to fight or flee, use a Magic Missile or a Sleep spell.. out of combat they shape the story with their decisions. If you're not able to do this, you're not really playing the game. You're just rolling dice.
Yes. Definitely. He controls every aspect of my life - whether I go to a D&D session or not, whether I go to work, when I sleep...
...oh, wait... I'm the DM.
I have had this problem before. Both with my own DMing and with other people's. Unfortunately, there isn't an easy solution to it; if discussion doesn't work, only action (and leaving the game) is really open to you, which isn't something that should be done lightly.
But if you're not enjoying the game any more, I don't know if you have many other options.
Cheers!
...oh, wait... I'm the DM.
I have had this problem before. Both with my own DMing and with other people's. Unfortunately, there isn't an easy solution to it; if discussion doesn't work, only action (and leaving the game) is really open to you, which isn't something that should be done lightly.
But if you're not enjoying the game any more, I don't know if you have many other options.
Cheers!
Holy Bovine
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blueshade said:
Couldn't your husband help you out on this? Does he not realize what is happening? You must be able to get him to back you up.
Something along the lines ofthe next time you want to attack/cast a spell/whatever have you husband stop whatever he is doing and look at the DM to resolve your action. If the DM tries to continue over you you and your husband should be asking him to resolve your action first.
I can understand being non-confrontational. it can be a hard thing to overcome but remember that confrontation doesn't mean conflict and hard feelings. A reasonable tone and calm exterior can be very effective in getting some action.
Thank you everyone for your friendly advice. Yes my husband has tried to help me out but like I was trying to say that my DM just has a "not going the way I planned then it is a no go" attitude and it is hard to overcome it. We both agree that this is a major problem in our group. My husband DMs as well and is never like that when he is the one in control and when he is the DM we usually have another player in the mix. Despite the fact that the group is larger then my husband always makes sure his PCs are happy and getting to do what they want. I guess maybe it is time for him to start running again since our current DM wants to play a solo game with us as NPCs. Too bad we live in an area with very few gamers otherwise we could join another group. Oh but anyway that is enough from me. I just needed to vent and get some advice to try and solve this problem. Hopefully I will have the courage to I hate to say it but be confrontational this Saturday when we meet again.
Again, thank you all.
Again, thank you all.
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