My friend is dying

I wne through this situation with my dog back in April. I'm 22 now and had had him as a pet since I was 7. Having him put to sleep was the hardest decision of my life, but I knew he was in pain and that it was best for him. I won't describe everything that happened, but basically it was as if he knew what was going to happen, which made it even harder. In the end, do what you think is best in your heart.
 

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if your companion cannot be made easily comfortable it is probably best to take the vets advice to heart.

you will feel better about yourself for quite a long while if you forget yourself and do what is best for that companion now.

my condolences, making choices ofr friends isn't always easy.
 

That is very sad. :: hugs :: I know how you feel, I had a cat all my life for 18 years, got it when I was a baby. Fortunately she died in her sleep one night and I never had to go through whether to put her down or not. My advice would be, is your cat in pain? Is she still enjoying life? I think unless she is in daily pain it would be fine to wait for time to take its toll.
 

I have seen my father mourn once in his life, and that was at the death of our first dog nearly 7 years ago. Our dog stoped eating one weekend and we took him to the vet on the monday. On Wednesday he wasn't any better so they did exploratory surgery and found he had a large turmor on his liver, so we put him to sleep. I was a sophomore in high school, and was mad my dog was put down, but new it was for the better. Today, I am glad for the years we had, and still miss him. But losing him then was better than a day more of suffering for him.

They day we lost Max we started our search for a new dog, and now my parents have Bailey.
 


If its just age and not severe pain, I suggest keeping him around for as long as possible. You never know, he might make it another 5 years. Then again, he might make it another 5 days. You just don't know and it isn't right for us mere mortals to determine the fate of our animal friends.

A year ago I lost 4 pets within 3 months. My chocolate lab, whome I'd had for 8 years, developed a limp. We took her in, found out she had hip displasia and was in an incredible amount of pain. It killed us to do it, but in that case we decided to euthanize because she would never be able to enjoy life the way she always had. She had been my first dog, and I wasn't at all prepared to see her die.

Then a month later 3 of our cats, which we'd had for 10 years got sick. They were vaccinated, but the tests they ran only showed that they didn't have anything that they normally vaccinate against. They were fine one day and the next they stopped eating, dropped a ridiculous amount of weight, and then they died. We kept them indoors just so that the stuff outside couldn't get to them. Then one stray cat started hanging around our house and that was all it took. One of the cats we had then is still alive and doing well, but I miss the ones that are gone. I wish there was more I could have done to protect them.

Pets can be your best friends and you have to do the best you can for them. If your cat is hanging on and not having serious health issues, I recommend keeping it alive as long as possible. I only wish I could have more time with the ones that I lost.
 

Oh, man. Liquide, you have my sympathies. I had to say goodbye to cats that were with me for 15 and 18 years. It's damned hard.

One thing to know is that nobody can tell you how you should act. People get very attached to their pets, and everyone deals with grieving differently.

What you face now is rough, but there's something you need to know in order to deal with it properly - there's a common image that an animal that's getting old will eventually quietly and peacefully slip away in it's sleep one night. That's rare enough to be nigh a myth. Generally, an animal that's building up the many ailments of age will linger a long time, and his passing naturally would be far, far from comfortable.

You've given Linus love, shelter, food, companionship, years of friendship. There's a point, though, where trying to continue to give him those things won't be a gift anymore. He'll be looking to you to give him the one last gift. He cannot give himself a painless passing, Liquide.

Only you can say when he's reached that point. He'll need you to watch, to see when it is that he's not enjoying life anymore. When he's got too much pain, no more will to eat, or to move about. Then he'll need you most of all.

Getting yourself ready to handle this isn't a small thing. You can have a day or two for just you and your pet, where you get his favorite toys and foods. Get some last photos, or make a scrapbook. I the US they sell these little clay plaques, so you can get a permanent paw-print impression. Do whatever feels right to have something to memorialize him.

And picking up afterwards isn't easy. If you want to be there when he goes, be there. But if you feel it'd hurt too much, don't. He'd understand, if he could. When he's gone, have a funeral, if you like.

I'm friends with more than my fair share of veterinarians, and have some other resources at my disposal in dealing with such things, if you need them.

Peace unto you...

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Deepest sympathies.

I'm not sure I could ever put a pet down.

I lost my ferret about 2 years ago. He had adrenal cancer and it was hard to watch, but I still couldn't do it.

I knew when I got home from work that it was his last day. I held him all night and in the morning he was gone. Despite the last month or so being hard on him, I still think that he had a better time of it than being handed over to a stranger. I just hope he agreed in his own weasely way.
 


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