My Grandfather & Father Have Passed Away

[reveal]

I'm very sorry for your loss, Fru.

 

[Bubbalicious]

My condolences as well, Fru. I would echo that I really enjoyed meeting you and your father last year.

 

[JoeBlank]

My condolences, Fru. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[xrpsuzi]

I can't help but feel really angry at him. He leaves a behind a wife, a son (me), a daughter and a grandson. This will probably mean huge lifestyle changes on the rest of the family. I don't know how to react to this, but am really, really angry.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. At times like this, I know words are entirely inadequate, but they are often the only tangible thing people have to offer from far away.

As for the anger you feel, when my dad passed away, the anger stage was relatively brief for me, b/c I wasn't angry at him for dying. It wasn't his idea. I was angry at that people have to die. I was angry that the only options for an individual when they die is to die alone or die leaving loved ones behind--both highly unsatifactory options and not really ours for the choosing.

Everyone works through it in their own way, but for me, acknowledging that helped me let go of the anger quickly and be there for my mom at a time when everyone else was looking to her for emotional support.

 

[trancejeremy]

Sorry to hear that. It's rough - my mother is in the process of dying now (cancer). So just hang in there.

 

[Soel]

My heartfelt condolences...

 

[Piratecat]

I just saw this now. Charles, I'm so terribly sorry; I really liked your Dad both times I met him. My sympathies to you and your family.

- Kevin

 

[Harmon]

Breath, man, slow down.

Sorry to hear about your lose, just take a little time to think about all he gave you and all he wanted for you.

Peace, and sorry for your lose.

 

[Upper_Krust]

Such terrible news. Sincerest condolences my friend.

I know what its like to lose loved ones so close together within a short space of time. In the early eighties I lost my mother, grandmother, grandfather, three uncles and an aunt in close succession. The last of those (chronologically speaking), my grandfather, died on December 25th. Hows that for a Happy Christmas.

The only two pieces of advice I can give you are firstly, to just hang in there, time does heal all wounds, even if you will always have the emotional scars. Secondly, be thankful for and cherish every moment you spent with them, because not everyone gets to grow up with their loved ones present.

 

[Angel Tarragon]

Thanks for all the support everyone. I didn't realize I had so many true online freinds.

It is really starting to sink in. I'm more sad now, and I've cried more than I thought I would. I can barely watch TV or think of something that we both enjoyed so much without stifling a tear or two. I really miss him.

Maybe it is kind of lame; but I've always kinfd of thought of Harry Morgan's portrayal of Sherman Potter from M*A*S*H to be my second father figure. I suippose I'll be watching a little more M*A*S*H than ususal once I get in the mood to start watching tv on a regular basis again.

Lifestyle changes are happening already: My mom has to switch my SSD account for my name under her name. This means I'll probably be without disposable income for 2-3 months. That stinks. It also means I won't be able to get anything for my nephew for his birthday. I'm guessing I'll have some money again no later than the end of May. :\

If it isn't too much trouble, maybe some of you that are able could drip me a cheap pdf every once in a while to help alleviate the stress of this. I don't expect anyone to, so I won't have any high hopes for this. And I'm not asking anyone to buy me pdfs, either.

What I mean is that those that publish their own pdfs would be doing me a great favor; and I'd gladly post reviews of them in exchange. I know it's been a while since I've written some reviews, but I haven't forgotten how.