My Grandfather & Father Have Passed Away
- Thread starter Angel Tarragon
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Bubbalicious
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My condolences as well, Fru. I would echo that I really enjoyed meeting you and your father last year.
Frukathka said:
I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. At times like this, I know words are entirely inadequate, but they are often the only tangible thing people have to offer from far away.
As for the anger you feel, when my dad passed away, the anger stage was relatively brief for me, b/c I wasn't angry at him for dying. It wasn't his idea. I was angry at that people have to die. I was angry that the only options for an individual when they die is to die alone or die leaving loved ones behind--both highly unsatifactory options and not really ours for the choosing.
Everyone works through it in their own way, but for me, acknowledging that helped me let go of the anger quickly and be there for my mom at a time when everyone else was looking to her for emotional support.
trancejeremy
Adventurer
Sorry to hear that. It's rough - my mother is in the process of dying now (cancer). So just hang in there.
Upper_Krust
Legend
Such terrible news. Sincerest condolences my friend.
I know what its like to lose loved ones so close together within a short space of time. In the early eighties I lost my mother, grandmother, grandfather, three uncles and an aunt in close succession. The last of those (chronologically speaking), my grandfather, died on December 25th. Hows that for a Happy Christmas.
The only two pieces of advice I can give you are firstly, to just hang in there, time does heal all wounds, even if you will always have the emotional scars. Secondly, be thankful for and cherish every moment you spent with them, because not everyone gets to grow up with their loved ones present.
I know what its like to lose loved ones so close together within a short space of time. In the early eighties I lost my mother, grandmother, grandfather, three uncles and an aunt in close succession. The last of those (chronologically speaking), my grandfather, died on December 25th. Hows that for a Happy Christmas.
The only two pieces of advice I can give you are firstly, to just hang in there, time does heal all wounds, even if you will always have the emotional scars. Secondly, be thankful for and cherish every moment you spent with them, because not everyone gets to grow up with their loved ones present.
Angel Tarragon
Dawn Dragon
Thanks for all the support everyone. I didn't realize I had so many true online freinds.
It is really starting to sink in. I'm more sad now, and I've cried more than I thought I would. I can barely watch TV or think of something that we both enjoyed so much without stifling a tear or two. I really miss him.
Maybe it is kind of lame; but I've always kinfd of thought of Harry Morgan's portrayal of Sherman Potter from M*A*S*H to be my second father figure. I suippose I'll be watching a little more M*A*S*H than ususal once I get in the mood to start watching tv on a regular basis again.
Lifestyle changes are happening already: My mom has to switch my SSD account for my name under her name. This means I'll probably be without disposable income for 2-3 months. That stinks. It also means I won't be able to get anything for my nephew for his birthday. I'm guessing I'll have some money again no later than the end of May. :\
If it isn't too much trouble, maybe some of you that are able could drip me a cheap pdf every once in a while to help alleviate the stress of this. I don't expect anyone to, so I won't have any high hopes for this. And I'm not asking anyone to buy me pdfs, either.
What I mean is that those that publish their own pdfs would be doing me a great favor; and I'd gladly post reviews of them in exchange. I know it's been a while since I've written some reviews, but I haven't forgotten how.
It is really starting to sink in. I'm more sad now, and I've cried more than I thought I would. I can barely watch TV or think of something that we both enjoyed so much without stifling a tear or two. I really miss him.
Maybe it is kind of lame; but I've always kinfd of thought of Harry Morgan's portrayal of Sherman Potter from M*A*S*H to be my second father figure. I suippose I'll be watching a little more M*A*S*H than ususal once I get in the mood to start watching tv on a regular basis again.
Lifestyle changes are happening already: My mom has to switch my SSD account for my name under her name. This means I'll probably be without disposable income for 2-3 months. That stinks. It also means I won't be able to get anything for my nephew for his birthday. I'm guessing I'll have some money again no later than the end of May. :\
If it isn't too much trouble, maybe some of you that are able could drip me a cheap pdf every once in a while to help alleviate the stress of this. I don't expect anyone to, so I won't have any high hopes for this. And I'm not asking anyone to buy me pdfs, either.
What I mean is that those that publish their own pdfs would be doing me a great favor; and I'd gladly post reviews of them in exchange. I know it's been a while since I've written some reviews, but I haven't forgotten how.
