abirdcall
(she/her)
Ahhh I see. What I was trying to say is that we don't want anyone at the table to feel like they've been left behind or may not be able to contribute to the group because they can't do as much. That may not actually be the case, from a helping the party perspective. Though the player who is a level or two behind may still feel that way, regardless of how they help the party. So we make sure that no one has to feel like the little guy in the group and just keep everyone at the same xp level. If they need a hand with the extra character options, we just take a little time to help them out. No one in my group would have a negative opinion of another player or their character if they actually were of lower level. They would actually feel more protective of that character. We just want everyone at the table to feel more like the hero and less like the sidekick. Sidekicks are cool and all, but that's more a place for hirelings and other NPCs.
I think my point is that not all players think of things in these terms. If it works well for your group that is great. Your statements have implied that you believe these qualities to be true for all groups.
My group plays with differing levels and no one feels like a sidekick, or like a lesser contributor. We all contribute to the story equally. We all get equal spotlight time. And the characters all get a chance to develop.
I've known many DMs who have had very positive results. You may not have positive results. Intentionally including opportunities for catharsis is certainly not the only way to improve your game -- there are lots of ways! But if you are not including it then there is a good chance you are missing out on something.
This is just bizzare to me. I have provided therapy sessions for my friends. When I did though, we discussed informed consent ahead of time, established barriers, discussed confidentiality, and scheduled a specific time for it. During this time my role was to help them in a professional manner, in contrast to a typical friendship meeting where both parties engage with each other in mutually interesting topics.
The concept of giving secret therapy sessions to my friends is patronizing at best and unethical at worst to me.
The idea that we should all be striving to do this is bizzare to me.