Not-so happy Valentine's Day

[Olaf the Stout]

Dude, I feel your pain.

Your story (with a few minor differences) is almost exactly like what happened to me a couple of years back. 8 years together. she breaks it off without warning the day before our anniversary and a week before my birthday.

be glad it was civil. It could have been much worse.

Sorry to threadjack, but Jesus_marley, she ripped you off 2 presents! Seems like the cheapskate didn't want to fork out for the presents since she didn't plan on being around to get the goodwill from them!

Olaf the Stout

 

[Olaf the Stout]

Sidekick,

Did you have any idea that this was coming? Had you been fighting more often or anything like that? I take it that she broke up with you rather than it being a mutual thing?

Either way, it is good that you're talking about it, even if it is with a group of semi-strangers dotted all around the world!

There's always someone here on EN World to talk to if you need it.

Olaf the Stout

 

[Nyaricus]

Yeah, I had my gf break up with me on my birthday, on the 2nd of Feb, so I know what it's like to get a kick in the guts.

My condolences, and best in luck with your future love life.

--N

 

[green slime]

Dude, my advice:

Get out of there, ASAP.

Seriously. Nothing good can come of being room mates, for any length of time. Make a clean break.

It hurts, but you'll manage.

 

[chakken98]

I understand what you are going thourgh as I went though something like that a few months back....mine ended up working out afterword but you can adpat and move on. I wish the best for you in these coming days...

 

[Olaf the Stout]

I understand what you are going thourgh as I went though something like that a few months back....mine ended up working out afterword but you can adpat and move on. I wish the best for you in these coming days...

So is everything going ok now chakken98?

Olaf the Stout

 

[xrpsuzi]

Sorry for the turn of events Sidekick.

Sounds like it was something you both thought needed to be done, but it was a matter of the hows and whens. If it's really over, I would agree with green slime. There is nothing for you there. Settle your affairs quickly and leave to heal your wounds.

At least you don't have kids or own things jointly. Kids make a breakup a thousand times more complicated emotionally, and trying to spilt things like a house can turn an otherwise-amicable breakup into something nasty.

Best wishes and get yourself somewhere you can rest your head.

-suzi

 

[Sidekick]

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement.

Well I'm moving out to stay with one of my friends (he';s a player in my Eberron game) for the next 2-4 weeks.

I've handed in my notice at work and once I've got everythign sorted like my final day and when I get paid I'll be buying that ticket home.

That's the thing that's made this soo hard and why we've put it off for so long. We live on the exact opposite side of the world from our home (I still say 'our', jeez). So I'll be leaving London soon and going home to Wellington to see my parents, hang with my best mates and generally heal up.

My new laptop arrives tomorrow, I'm only going to have a couple of evenings at the flat this week and then I'm moving out this weekend.

My life as a unit of has begun... it'll take some getting used to but I'll get used to it eventually.

Thanks again for all the kind words

 

[Aus_Snow]

Must be a good time for it.

I've been staring down the barrel of the ending of a longterm (similar period of time) relationship lately.

Oh sure, it hasn't happened yet. Hey, maybe it won't! But yeah, Valentine's Day sucked here, too. :\

Not helpful, perhaps. But I know from the past - and to some extent, the present - how you feel.

Condolences.

 

[Waldorf]

Get out. And pronto.