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Third, as @Bedrockgames said upthread, it's really important to teach children how to lose graciously. If you don't, you are doing them a tremendous disservice, because they will become teens and adults who do not know how to lose graciously, and they will encounter winning and losing in the real world as adults.

I didn't really participate in sports till I was older so it was a lesson, when I started learning it, I realized how important it is. Losing is really one of the most important things you can learn to do. That is how you find out where your limits are, that is how you regroup and figure out how to improve. And it can teach goal setting if done well.
 

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Learning that it’s okay to be wrong is very important. Losing is not the same thing, and only becomes an issue when we assume that something is a competition.

And assuming that things are a competition is what causes people to be afraid to be wrong. Because they think being wrong makes them a loser. This assumption is built into education, and it’s why education fails so many people.

Standardized testing produces poor overall results compared to other teaching methods, with miles of research to prove it. The American over reliance on it is a significant contributor to the US having a woefully underperforming education system compared to other developed countries. It is popular with conservative politicians because they think it increases accountability (it doesn’t) and because it is a conveniently simple solution to a complex problem, so the fact that it produces demonstrably inferior results gets ignored.

The SAT tests, for example, are the biggest scam in education, and do no better than random chance in predicting college performance, but that didn’t stop most American universities from relying on them for a century or so. Thankfully, they are finally starting to slowly go away.
 
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Standardized testing produces poor overall results compared to other teaching methods, with miles of research to prove it. The American over reliance on it is a significant contributor to the US having a woefully underperforming education system compared to other developed countries. It is popular with conservative politicians because they think it increases accountability (it doesn’t) and because it is a conveniently simple solution to a complex problem, so the fact that it produces demonstrably inferior results gets ignored.

I don't think we can get into this kind of politics here but I do want to clarify Massachusetts is a blue state, and I wouldn't say support of the tests is considered a conservative position here
 

Learning that it’s okay to be wrong is very important. Losing is not the same thing, and only becomes an issue when we assume that something is a competition.

And assuming that things are a competition is what causes people to be afraid to be wrong. Because they think being wrong makes them a loser. This assumption is built into education, and it’s why education fails so many people.
I agree they aren't the same thing. But I think both learning to lose and learning to be wrong are equally important in life. Everything isn't a competition. So we shouldn't assume all things are or approach all things like they are. But some things, like many sports, are a competition. And sports isn't about being right or wrong, it is about performance. In a competitive sport you are going to have winners and losers. And losing isn't the end of the world. Nor is it something that should define a person. These are important lessons in sportsmanship that competitive sports can teach you. Losing also presents an opportunity to learn and improve, because it can reveal your weaknesses. Just as an example here, if you and I sit down to a game of chess, and I lose, I could fly off the handle, flip over the board and lock myself in a room with a bottle of bourbon. That would be an extreme overreaction though, and unfortunately people sometimes never learn how to deal with the emotions of losing and overreact when they do. On the other hand, if I am wise, I understand that maybe I lost because you are more skilled at chess than me, and I can learn from the experience of being beaten by you. I should also realize that not only am I not defined by the fact that I lost a chess match to you, but that how I conducted myself over that loss says much more about my character than the fact that I lost. I do think this lesson can be extended to life, in that it helps people to content with failure when they encounter it.

Also I think there is something to be said for learning how to respect someone you are in competition with. Bad sportsmanship teaches people to do things like the sucker punch to the head we saw in a previous post. Good sportsmanship teaches you to value the person you are in competition with and respect their dignity.

In terms of education and testing. I think these are two different topics. They also have very different stakes. Education, whether tests are good or bad, that impacts the course of a person's entire life (including what kind of job they might get, how much they could earn). So the stakes are different there and I think more than testing, there is a problem of how much we've allowed that to determine how comfortably a person is going to live after they graduate. Sports might get you a scholarship but I think that isn't the point, and it shouldn't be (I don't believe in sports scholarships personally)
 


I used to organise wargaming tournaments. I soon discovered that after two rounds many players would simply drop out of a four round tournament because they had no chance to get in the top 3 and win a prize.

Next tournament, I announced there would be only two top prizes and one random prize among those who stayed and weren’t in the top two. Every one stayed till the end. I also gave a wooden golden cooking spoon to the worst player. He loved it. It became a tradition.

Participation prizes are important.

We did something similar in Magic.

Tournament organizer would also hand out prizes for most interesting deck or innovative.

Prizes like tgat have value though. Participation trophy also implies lack of value. Here's your 8th place trophy, star sticker etc.
 

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