[OT] Hurting. (I warn you, this is *very* OT

[Chairman_Kaga]

Man I am so sorry...

But I tell ya...you're a better man than me. You had the presence of mind to wait before you reacted. If it were me, they'd be done. Period. No absolution.


There is no greater crime in my eyes than violating the sacrement of marriage.

There are times when I wish I had your self-control.

 

[the Jester]

Ah, man... I know how you feel.

The only girl I've EVER been able to see myself with for the rest of my life, who taught me to trust and to open up again after years of being very closed, tossed me away without even telling me why. It wasn't for two years that she told me she'd been cheating on me the whole time. I cried over her for that whole two years.

Thing to keep in mind is, you can't choose what kind of people they are; you can only choose what kind of person you are. They screwed you over, and I know all too well the hurt, anger and rage that being betrayed makes you feel. But you have to decide whether you're going to let them rule you or whether you're going to wrestle them down.

My advice to you: stay busy.

 

[SHARK]

Greetings!

Amen Jester, Amen!

Semper Fidelis,

SHARK

 

[der_kluge]

Kyle, by posting, you are already well on your way to the healing process.

 

[Steve Conan Trustrum]

I feel your pain, man. A few years ago I had my best friend staying with me in school rez, risking me getting tossed out if it was discovered, because he was homeless. I later found out that, while he was staying with me, my girlfriend at the time, who was also friends with him, had cheated on me with him.

It is a good thing that you didn't take the same route I did, which was beat him senseless and scare him into moving to another city. Betrayal is easily the worst thing a person can deal with, so hang in there and do what you need to do to get your life straight again.

 

[qstor]

Good luck Kyle. Hang in there. Talk to people in your ward. Depression is a serious illness I hope you talk to someone about it. Stay busy as another poster said.


Mike

 

[takyris]

You know, on a small side note, I really wish that all the people who think that roleplayers are a bunch of sick freaks with no family, no love, no God, whatever... I really wish they could all find this thread, and see you guys. The support and friendship and love and empathy... you're a pretty cool bunch of people.

-Tacky

 

[Henry]

points to SHARK Listen to this man!

Shark, I think we should start calling you "SHARKspeare" - you have a way with distilling a problem that most people never will.

 

[KDLadage]

It is really amazing that the events that you descibe mirror a set of my own. Marriage... child... infidelity... divorce...

The only things that need to be changed are things like the fact that I am a Lutheran, you have not yet divorced, my child is a little girl, my moving came as a result of the Navy moving me about, and the fact that I have now not seen my daughter in nearly five years.

It is tough. Very tough. Very few weeks go by that I do not stop and get a bit weepy about the whole thing. Often times, I am depressed, and it takes me a whiel to realize why.

Still, these days I am mostly happy. I have family, friends... I have a lot going for me. I have survived. Family, friends, time and love can get you through just about anything.

Listen to Shark -- his post is dead on. Many others in this thread have some good advice too. Hang in there. Talk about it. Talk to anyone that will listen -- do not let this stuff get bottled up inside. Release it and begin the healing process.

 

[KnowTheToe]

I offer no advice,

but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.