'm not sure exactly how to feel about "reclaiming" words. I get the idea. At the same time, I think it also touches on an idea that I mentioned earlier: culturally, it appears to sometimes be okay for language to be said to evolve and sometimes not okay. Occasionally, I think there are points at which modern culture's rules (especially in the US) for determining okay versus not okay become so convoluted that the average person mentally tunes out.
The reclaimation of 'queer' has mostly been driven less by modern culture and more so by modern
LGBTQIA+ culture (which are pretty different), and I will note it is not 'universal'; it obviously doesn't cover other languages, and it's not a term I would use to refer to myself personally.
Reclaimation is a complicated thing; like all culture is. I'm not sure I would call it evolution or rejection of reclaimation as not evolution however. It's more so a process with undeterminable result, and certainly involves 'generational' changes.
For me personally, I generally have a thick skin, but also attempt to have empathy in order to understand others. I'm someone who acknowledges how marginalized people are mistreated, while also being someone who enjoy the recent Chappelle performance. I think context matters.
This is off-topic and we're going a bit away from the point, but I do feel the need to address it.
Not to dwell on it too much there were a ton of problems around Chappelle's pretty heavily transphobic 'jokes' and bits in his latest performance:
a) he blamed a trans comedian's suicide on some apparent bad reactions and harassment from 'the trans community' - something which the family heavily disputes.
b) he did not respect her identity during said program.
c) he called himself a TERF (trans exclusionary radical feminist); since TERFs are against trans rights by default, he can't exactly claim to support trans people like he did during his performance.
d) several of the statements he said seemed to imply as if (at-least from an American perspective?) that the rights and struggles of black people and LGBTQIA+ people in the US are at odds with each other; in general, some of what he said seems to ignore the lives of black LGBTQIA+ people and in fact that, horrifically, trans black people (particularly trans black women) are heavily at risk of being murdered or to suffer violence.
e) he made some... pretty horrific references and comparisons between the results of sex reassignment surgery for trans women and fake goods.
I'm pointing this out more for awareness and why in particular that performance has (rightly) been called out as transphobic; I know for many Chappelle's comedic, especially in the past, meant something to them, but I think in the last while he's gone down a hateful path
In the context of fantasy roleplaying, I am not someone who finds the use of "phylactery" offensive. Maybe other people do.
Which is fair. I don't doubt that with the people I am likely to GM with, the use of phylactery wouldn't turn heads, and since I myself am not Jewish, I would necessarily be offended by it either.
But I do think the name change is positive, especially since it allows for more GM customisation of their world, and allows an easy way to get across the concept in one sentance.