Gradine
🏳️⚧️ (she/her) 🇵🇸
That's fair. However...My interest is on what I can actually achieve at a table when I'm making my characters.
...I feel like this is very much overstating the problem. Anecdotal evidence is all that any of us really have but I'd like to believe that this degree of adversarial DMing is becoming much more rare as the hobby has opened up and kind of exploded in the past decade.When 9 out of 10 GMs is going to view Intimidate as the Screw Yourself Over Even When You Succeed With Flying Colors skill, then yes, I'm going to say "oooookay, never ever ever take that skill; the chance I might get lucky with this GM isn't worth the extreme risk that I won't."
My solution to a GM who is going to punish me for using a skill the game gives me every opportunity to take for my character is not to stop taking or using that skill, it's to stop showing up at that table.