<Rant> Where has courtesy gone?

[nothing to see here]

I think that it's so easy to be rude on the Internet for a few reasons...

ie. lack of accountability. You don't have to look someone in the face when you insult them, so it's easy.

Combine that with the fact that like 90% of communication has nothing to do with the words we're saying, but instead lies with things like body posture and tone, and we're all only passing 10% of what we're trying to say to each other, and then wondering why people get offended.

Banshee

Good points, all. As much as I love Message Boards like this one during slow periods of work...they lack many of the refining features of personal communications.

 

[Harmon]

To those of you that give blood (Harmon mentioned it)- thank you. I received some this last year, without donators I might not have made it or perhaps I would have and it just would have taken me longer to recover. If you have never given blood it only hurts a little and they give you cake afterwards or cookies.

I have not given in a year due to some questions regarding my health, but as soon as I can I will continue. You are very welcome

Harmon, I am doing better, thank you for asking. I am sorry about your friend, it’s a sad thing when a friendship dissolves, leave your heart open and maybe….

You are welcome.

I will. I have hope that one day he will see I am not the only one being an ass.

 

[ForceUser]

This thread reminds me of that song from Chicago.

(Velma)
Whatever happened to fair dealing
And pure ethics
And nice manners?
Why is it everyone now is a pain in the Arse?
Whatever happened to class?
(Mama)
Class.
Whatever happened to Please may I
And Yes thank you
And How charming?
Now every son of a b*tch
Is a snake in the grass
Whatever happened to class?
(Velma)
Class.
(Both)
Oh, there ain't no gentlemen to open up the doors,
There ain't no ladies now there's only pigs and whores
And even kids'll knock you down so's they can pass
Nobody's got no class!!!
(Velma)
Whatever happened to old values
(Mama)
And fine morals
(Velma)
And good breeding?
(Mama)
Now no-one even says oops
When they're passing their gas
(Both)
Whatever happened to class?
Class.
Oh, There ain't no gentelmen that's fit for any use,
And any girl will touch your privates for a deuce
And even kids'll kick your shins and give ya sass
Nobody's got no class!
(Velma)
All you read about today is rape and theft
(Mama)
Jesus Christ, ain't there no decency left?
(Both)
Nobody's got no class!

(Mama)
Every guy is a snot
(Velma)
Every girl is a twat
(Mama)
Holy sh*t
(Velma)
Holy sh*t
(Mama)
What a shame
(Velma)
What a shame
(Both)
What became of class?

 

[Umbran]

This thread reminds me of that song from Chicago.

If I recall the policy correctly, putting "*" does not make a thing Grandma friendly, ForceUser. And you missed at least one naughty word in there. You might want to edit or reconsider that post.

 

[ForceUser]

If I recall the policy correctly, putting "*" does not make a thing Grandma friendly, ForceUser. And you missed at least one naughty word in there. You might want to edit or reconsider that post.

Bleh. It's art. If a mod has a problem with it, he can do what he feels he needs to do. I ain't changing it.

 

[Dagger75]

I don't think people are anymore rude than what they used to be. My job is givning people bad news all day, I tell them that there Health Insurance won't pay for this or that all day long. Even they are generally not rude to me. They may be pissed but they aren't pissed at me. I don't get the "rude vibe" from them.

Now my roommate thinks everybody in the service is rude unless they meet his standards. He is a manager of an electronics store and expects his employees to be super nice. I have worked in the service industry way to long, and very rarely do cashiers, stocker and what not come off as rude. Sure the "have a nice day" may just be lip service but its a rough borning job. I try to be extra nice polite to them, don't complain to them when the lines are long, the computer is slow or whatever. Its not there fault, they want you gone as much as you want to be out of there. And generally people want to help other people so I try to be nice. A simple smile and nice hello are usally all that is needed.

As for the stopping on the side of road thing-- I would like to stop and help change a tire but its a different world now. People have been robbed or killed trying to be nice.

And the gas can story with no guys stopping to offer a ride-- Again, its a different world a woman getting into a strangers car nowadays just seems like asking for trouble.

 

[Arnwyn]

I've occasionally wondered if the prevalence of online forums of communication hasn't heightened rudeness amongst people at large.

Well, some preliminary studies (that, coincidentally, I read about in the newspaper not much more than a week ago) say "likely".

 

[Aeolius]

As for the stopping on the side of road thing-- I would like to stop and help change a tire but its a different world now. People have been robbed or killed trying to be nice. And the gas can story with no guys stopping to offer a ride-- Again, its a different world a woman getting into a strangers car nowadays just seems like asking for trouble.

I'd agree with this. I have a wife and kids. I generally do not trust people, as a rule. Therefore, I do not pick up hitchhikers, nor do I stop to help strangers, unless it's in full view of others (busy highway, crowded gas station, etc).

 

[sniffles]

Or it simply means that at the time they were passing your truck, they didn't need a bungee cord.

On the other hand, living up here in Canada, I had an extension cord on my front porch, that I used at night to heat the engine of my car, so that when I had to drive to work in the morning, when it had been -40 celcius overnight, the car would actually start.

Of course, figuring that nobody would steal off my porch, I didn't always bring it inside when I left for work in the mornings. And, what do you know....somebody stole it this last winter.

Call me naive, but generally, I would expect not to have to worry about somebody coming onto my property and taking something that doesn't belong to them.


Banshee

I haven't lost my faith in humanity yet, but it does make me wonder when people think they can just take your stuff. Someone stole a wasp trap from outside my house. Why would you steal a wasp trap?? People also think they can dump stuff in my driveway randomly just because I don't use the driveway to park my car. And recently our lawn is very long. Do the neighbors ask us if we need help? No, they just complain about the grass, leaving anonymous notes on our door. We don't own a mower and we're financially strapped right now. I can understand the anonymity of the note a bit - they're probably afraid we'll come to the door with a gun if they identify themselves - but couldn't it occur to them that we're not letting the grass grow just to annoy them?

On the other side of the coin: A year and a half ago I was going through chemo, and while I was in hospital for treatment a big ice storm came through. My fiancee couldn't get to the hospital to pick me up after my treatment was done. The doctor who was on call that week had a 4-wheel-drive SUV, and she gave me a ride home. She didn't have to do that. She wasn't making any extra money off me, and no one was waiting for the hosptial bed because new patients couldn't get there through the ice. She just did it so I wouldn't have to be in the hospital another day or two.

 

[Tewligan]

no one deserves to be in a wheel chair,

Hitler and Cobra Commander deserve it.