Medicine regards pain as a signal of physical injury to the body despite evidence contradicting the linkage and despite the exclusion of vast numbers of sufferers who experience psychological pain. By broadening our concept of pain and making it more ...www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Where does emotion hurt in the body?www.psychologytoday.com
Rejection hurts. Whether you’ve been told ‘no thank you’ for a job opportunity, become estranged from a partner or friend, or even been unfollowed on a social media or dating site, your brain has to process being rejected. And neuroscience suggests that it literally - hurts.www.forbes.com
For centuries, millennia even, it often wasn't societally acceptable for people to talk about the things that hurt them. Those who did were seen as weak, pathetic, wusses, babies, girly, emotional, whiny, neurotic, whatever. They were told to suck it up, be stoic, to man up, to stop bothering other people with their stupid complaints.
But now, it is becoming more and more acceptable to talk about those things and less and less acceptable to ridicule those who do.
This is not a fad. This is people who no longer have to pretend that they get upset.
You just haven't realized that yet.
But it's OK for you to use your feelings against them as a weapon?You don't get to use your feelings like a weapon like that.
The fact that you said "probably" when it involves a "close friend" doesn't suggest that you're a very good friend.Look, if I have a close friend in my group and he's mauled by a tiger, there probably won't be tigers.
How important are tigers to the game that excising them would be disruptive? Now, if the entire point of the game was tiger-hunting, then sure, changing the game would probably be too much. But if tigers are an incidental part of it? Like, they may show up as a random encounter table? Then how selfish do you have to be to be unwilling to change "tiger" to "giant lizard"? Hell, you could even use the same stats and just describe it differently.If some person in my group brings a random guy to the table, and we have long had tigers as part of the setting, I think it is fair for our group to decide whether we feel that is a reasonable thing we can accommodate. But my point is, that person doesn't have a right to impose a demand on the whole table because they have this feeling about tigers.
That exact thing happened in my game! When we got a new player in the game, I asked him if there was anything he didn't want me to include because it upset him--especially because I run a lot of Ravenloft. Due to his unfortunate religious upbringing, that thing was being possessed.Doesn't mean we should make fun of the person. Doesn't mean we shouldn't take any distress they are feeling seriously. But it just means we have to be able to negotiate these things on a case by case basis. This is doubly the case if we are trying to run a Ravenloft game and someone has a request like 'no ghosts' or no 'possession'. I can sympathize with their feelings but also decide that removing that element would undermine the game too much,
That is literally what you said: " But there are also people who don't have mental health issues who are happy to gain sympathy for claiming they have them. And there are also people who will say they have mental health issues, when they don't because they think it is normal or expected. I am arguing the latter is taking place."That isn't what I am saying and I would appreciate if you do not put words in my mouth.
No. You said that "it's a fad," like that means you can just ignore it until it blows over (by definition, fads are short-lived). I'm explaining why people speaking up about their mental health issues is not a "fad".I never said you can't talk about things that are emotionally distressing.
So explain some of these experiences you've had and how they've negatively affected the game. And explain how not wanting to include certain issues in what is supposed to be a fun activity is "obsessive."Some of what I am seeing around the whole safety tools thing, to me, based on my own experiences with mental illness (and not just my own, but experiences I've had with family members that have been very instructive in terms of where these things can go), strikes me as very unhealthy and getting into the obsessive territory
Yes, a lot of people have generalized anxiety where panic attacks can be caused by seemingly random things, or by nothing obvious at all. I've had them. But a lot of people do have easily-avoided triggers. So why does it bother you to simply not include something you know could cause harm to a person?
That is literally what you said: " But there are also people who don't have mental health issues who are happy to gain sympathy for claiming they have them. And there are also people who will say they have mental health issues, when they don't because they think it is normal or expected. I am arguing the latter is taking place."
No. You said that "it's a fad," like that means you can just ignore it until it blows over (by definition, fads are short-lived). I'm explaining why people speaking up about their mental health issues is not a "fad".