Doug McCrae said:
Yes. Massively different.
No. Massively the same.
Doug McCrae said:
Rape's a form of torture. Would you describe a PC being tortured in detail?
Which is exactly why it's the same. Still, moot point. He specifically said that he did not describe it in detail.
Rape is a profoundly evil thing. It's supposed to be a visceral punch in the gut. When it happens in fiction, that's exactly its purpose. I can understand why some gamers would be uncomfortable with having it in their game.
Then again, I'd probably be uncomfortable having those players in my game as well. Not that I would focus on it or describe it in detail, but at the same time, I would never pretend that torture, rape, genocide, systematic murder and other equally unpleasant things don't exist in my campaign world. If you can't handle the content of, say a typical GRRM or Black Company book, I don't want you in my campaign on an ongoing basis. I ain't running the equivalent of the D&D cartoon here, or even something as relatively sanitized as Tolkien.
One shots are different; I shoot for all kinds of styles, tones and feels there, but for my ongoing campaigns, I almost always turn fairly dark and serious, and that means that the possibility of some pretty extreme unpleasantness (granted, taking place offscreen in almost all cases) are par for the course. If I'm worrying that my players are suddenly going to storm off in a huff on me, I'm not going to enjoy running the game.
I don't want to give the impression that I'm an insensitive bastige that purposefully goes around trying to offend players either, but I don't want to have to worry about it.