Scrooge + Grinch = me

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I cancelled Christmas.

Nobody likes my stepmother except my father.
My mother hates my stepmother.
I work for my father.
I like my mother, but she drives me nuts.
My (31-year old) brother was whining that we weren't opening presents at 8am.
My cousin & his girlfriend, both of whom I like, may not be coming into town until 3am Christmas morning.
My stepmother isn't wild about these gatherings.
My wife was crying because 12 people were coming and the only ones who'd be happy to be there would be my sister and my cousin's girlfriend.
My grandmother died a month or so ago, and this is my grandfather's first Christmas without her in...sixty? years. He and my sister and my aunt are the only people we're at all inclined to see right now.

And my wife and I have had our own issues that no one except my father and stepmother know about, and they only know because he provides my insurance.

I'm not going to chose between a Christmas that excludes one of my parents and a Christmas that has everyone on tiptoes because my parents are "bearing" it & my MARRIED ADULT brother is whining because we don't act like we're 6.

I've sent out an email and talked to my brother, my sister, & my aunt. My wife talked to my mother. It's done.


For god's sake, someone tell me we're right. :(
 

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Frukathka said:
Oh, you are the clever one tonight, aren't you? :p


hee hee hee "Scrinch!" It's still cracking me up! :p


Oh, and I say no one should have to spend time with someone they don't like on the holidays if they don't want to do so. However, sounds like your dad and stepmother are a package deal so you have to bear it if you want to spend time with your dad. Unless she is purposefully abusive, you can probably stand it for his sake. I think I would in your shoes but, of course, I don't have all of the details.
 
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I think you did the exact right thing for which you will get no credit and a great deal of blame.

Seriously though, taking charge and calling things off like you did virtually guarantees two things:

1) Everybody will have a more pleasant, less stressful Christmas than they otherwise would have. And...

2) They'll all be angry with you.


Being right is hardly ever easy.
 

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