So... My Group Just Broke...

[Flatus Maximus]

... she had a tendency to act really immaturely even though she's 21.

thanks for the lol, this really brightened my day, night, whatever....

 

[Brasswatchman]

So, has anyone had similar experiences with fellow players?

Oh, yeah. These days, I tend to just see drama as a side effect of people being in the same room.

 

[RefinedBean]

I've had awesome game moments with couples, hour-long RP sessions where they didn't talk to each other more than once or twice. Great gamers.

I've also had crap-tastic moments with couples that either engaged in too much PDA to really take anything they said seriously, or just let drama filter into...well, the made-up drama.

They run the gamut, just like single gamers do.

 

[roguerouge]

I have tried everything, but the other wives hate our gaming. My wife even arranged a D&D get together for my 41st birthday to break in 4th edition. AND THEY GOT THEIR FEELINGS HURT.

RK

I'm trying to imagine this... I like to think of it as some woman with really big frizzy hair pointing her finger at your wife, screeching, "His birthday gift offends me! Begone!"

 

[Rashak Mani]

Americans seem to game with non-friends a lot.

We have a good number of players that are all friends amongst them. 20 something people. We have various groups mixing them all up.

Some stop playing... some just leave for a while to raise newborn kids. All keep in touch and are friends.

Still once in a while someone bitches about something silly...

 

[Olaf the Stout]

MadMaxim, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. I think it is up to the DM to decide whether or not to allow new players into the game. Sometimes if someone other than the DM is hosting the game then they may also have a veto power.

I am the DM and host in my game. If any of my players invited someone else along to the game without asking me I would not be happy. Even if they did ask me and I was ok with it, the new player still has to go through a couple of sessions trial period. If I, or any of my current players, don't like the new addition they are told, "Thanks, but no thanks." So far the new players we have added have had no trouble fitting in to the group.

A couple of questions? Have you been invited to either of the weddings? Has the quitting player invited the DM and her fiance to her wedding? How close are the 2 couples? Does it seem odd that the quitting player and her fiance haven't been invited to the DM's wedding?

It seems like there are deeper issues there than just the DM not allowing an extra player in the game.

Olaf the Stout

 

[airwalkrr]

It sounds to me like you didn't do anything wrong, MadMaxim. I wouldn't sweat it. People, single or attached, just act stupid from time to time.

 

[MadMaxim]

A couple of questions? Have you been invited to either of the weddings? Has the quitting player invited the DM and her fiance to her wedding? How close are the 2 couples? Does it seem odd that the quitting player and her fiance haven't been invited to the DM's wedding?

It seems like there are deeper issues there than just the DM not allowing an extra player in the game.

To all of you, thank you for your comments. It's always nice to hear some other people's opinions on different matters. I know that 21 isn't considered "mature" as such, but she and her boyfriend have 1½ year-old boy and I thought becoming a parent would perhaps make her a bit more mature and responsible, but I've been proven wrong over and over and all this simply burned away the last bit of patience and understanding that I had with her... She's seriously a drama queen of gigantic proportions...

But to get back to your questions, Olaf:

1) No, I haven't been invited to any of the weddings, though the offended couple had plans about inviting me and my fiancé (who doesn't game) to their wedding next year, but I didn't expect it, because they don't have huge piles of money but are still throwing a rather expensive wedding with some financial support from their respective parents. So, I actually didn't expect to be invited, and they hadn't sent out any invites yet.
2) It's funny because the soon-to-be husbands in either couple are actually cousins, and the DM was to be the quitting player's bridesmaid, so yeah, I think they were planning on inviting them. Now, I guess nothing is certain...
3) The two couples are pretty close since the soon-to-be husbands are cousins and their fiancés are long-time friends, so yeah, I'd say they're close.
4) Now, here's the funny thing. The DM and her fiancé are getting married at city hall the first time around this November and have only invited their closest family, so it's a private party. They plan to get married in church when they have more money to throw a good party for all of their friends and family, so it's purely for financial reasons that they don't throw a bigger party in the first place, so the quitting player and her fiancé ARE going to be invited to their church wedding the following party. That's why I seriously don't see why the quitting player needed to make such a big deal about it.

 

[Thanee]

Yeah, they should just start growing up. It's about time.

Bye
Thanee

 

[MadMaxim]

I've really been trying to be patient and friendly with this woman for much too long, but this time I just couldn't let it slide and had to give her a piece of my mind. I did rather diplomatic (after all I'm in law school ), so I basically told her that she wasn't a very nice person and that I would have problems gaming with her in the future if she kept acting like that. Since she couldn't give me any good reasons for leaving the group, I simply told her that I thought she mad, because she couldn't have it her way. I just had to get it out of my system... Does that make me a bad person...? Not that I consider myself better than anyone in any way, but I still think I'm entitled to form an opinion about a person I've been gaming with for a couple of years. And she has always been like this with varying degrees of intensity.