I'm sorry, but this is baloney. A person's annoying behavior is annoying *behavior*, not someone else's emotion.
If you are at a cocktail party, having enjoyable conversations, and there's this one guy who just keeps blowing cigar smoke in your face, it is not your internal lack of emotion control that is the problem. It is the jackhole who's performing the annoying *action*.
If you are participating in an online discussion forum about a game, and someone keeps making little comments to insult your game preference, it is not your internal lack of emotion control that is the problem. It is the jackhole who's making the unnecessary comments.
Bullgrit